I need to change several habits but whenever I do something that is new to me, I get a little stressed. I used to have depressions and I know that CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy described in self-help books works for getting over extreme lethargy, but it doesn't seem to help me when the problem isn't really specific, and it also doesn't help within the immediate time frame because it's mostly a journal technique. I mean ultimately CBT will work, but it doesn't seem to work fast enough. Is there anything better?
I'm no expert on this but I've been reading the book "Willpower" by Baumeister and Tierney. In this book the writers state that willpower is a limited resource. If you want to do things that rely on willpower, like changing habits, you should change only one thing at a time until it you've changed it into a new and good habit that you like. If you try to change multiple things at once you have a big chance that your willpower gets exhausted and that you'll fail to change any habit.
As for stress-reduction, personally I like to meditate on a daily basis. It helps me but if it will also work for you is an entirely different matter. My suggestion for you would be to try several things and see what works and doesn't work. Some examples of things you can try:
Basically anthing that will take your mind of your stress-inducing problem might do the trick.
Finally, if you are really this displeased with yourself you might want to ask a professional for help and/or tips.
That happens to everyone, including me. You need to understand one thing -- change is a part of life.
I am no expert either nor have I read any book on this topic however what I learnt from my experience is change should be slow. Any drastic change can cause problems sometimes. I substantiate this statement by giving you the example of an industry practice for adopting changes called
I quote from some website:
Now, time to apply this to your real life, the simple way.
Step 1. Identify what you need to change.
Here is a simple example:
Step 1. Allocate time for yourself to play games. (Say, 2 hours at the start)
I have been using this technique so far and works for me. Your thoughts on my answer are welcome :)