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I'm very eager to get my stuff done at work. At home I want to be as productive, but all efforts won't last long. I'm caught in frustration as my boyfriend needs seconds to mess up stuff that took me hours to clean. If I confont him, he gets upset because he can't deal with criticism.

How would you deal with him? Is there a special method?

And how can I still motivate myself out off frustration?

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Sounds like this is more a social issue of your boyfriend than an productivity issue of yourself. My advice would be to try to talk to him about the issue without using sentences like "you always do X". Consider also to chose a moment when both of your aren't angry or tired. Maybe you are just stuck with an [deleted]. Best wishes! – 0x6d64 Apr 8 '12 at 15:43
I never say things like "you always". The problem might be, that he exactly knows I'm right. sigh The bigger problem is my broken motivation. I have to get things done and just back away and procrastinate. – Korinna Apr 8 '12 at 15:48
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It doesn't sound like motivation is your main problem - I don't think anyone could be expected to be motivated when they know the results of their work will be undone instantly. It sounds to me like you need to figure out a better balance in your relationship, at least with regard to chores. Hard to tell how without knowing the details, but... Back off a bit and stop spending so much time cleaning, so he has time to notice the mess? Talk to him about what level of clean he wants the place to be and whether that's very different from your preferred level? Hire a cleaning service? – weronika Apr 8 '12 at 23:26
@weronika, Talking about the level of clean is a good idea. Thanks. +1 – Korinna Apr 9 '12 at 6:30

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