My younger brother is an asshole. I love him and we have a pretty good relationship, but he's an asshole.
He's doesn't break the law and he doesn't harm people physically but he is cheap, ungracious, abrasive, short-tempered, and skilled at rationalizing away the double-standards he lives.
He's in his early twenties now and I believe his negative qualities are having a severely negative impact on his career, his friendships, his family relationships, and probably his love-life.
As I guess is common in cases like this - he wasn't always this way. As a little kid, he always wanted to be "good". Something went wrong and now he appears to pride himself on being a nuisance. I do worry that while he doesn't break laws, if he were to get caught in a legally ambiguous situation with the wrong people he'd end up on the wrong side of this razor he dances along. He skips out on financial responsibilities if he can get away with it.
He's very intelligent and quick-witted. He is very funny when the atmosphere will allow it. His intelligence is a bit of a nasty defense mechanism as well - and nobody seems to have a strong-enough wit themselves to break through it.
He would be unwilling to speak to a therapist if it cost him anything. I can't afford to pay for one for him. But I want to help him because he doesn't seem to be growing out of it himself fast enough to avoid serious life consequences.
So the question is:
Are there popular fiction or non-fiction secular books/movies/etc that a person like my brother would relate to, but which might help someone like him get on a better track? I'm not sure what I'm hoping for, but I figure he's not unique and perhaps someone will recognize this character in him and know what to do.
(I can be major asshole too - there's probably a family resemblance. But he's got it the worst.)