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Is there any established technique to deal with distractions coming from personal life? For example, how to concentrate after a discussion (not work-related)?

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Please give people credit for their effort to help you by accepting answers on your previous questions. You haven't accepted a single answer! –  THelper Nov 12 '12 at 8:23
    
I'll check again the answers...I found very difficult to sincerely accept a single one, since for the same question there are multiple suggestion I appreciate but never the "resolutive" answer ( since my questions are very subjective).usually I vote up the answers I like more –  laika Nov 12 '12 at 16:35
    
Subjective answers don't fit well with StackExchange. That said, pick one you like the best and accept it. It doesn't have to be the answer to end all answers for you to accept it. –  Jeanne Boyarsky Nov 14 '12 at 14:09
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imho, it could be hard (if not impossible); here is a quote from "FOR MEN ONLY" ( Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn) :

Picture this: You’re on your computer, moving between six or seven open screens on your desktop. Perhaps you’re juggling three or four Word documents, an Excel spreadsheet or two, and your home budgeting program. In addition, your e-mail program and Internet browser are running, and your computer is playing your favorite Webcast radio program. It’s a digital Grand Central Station.

Now add another dimension: Imagine that some of the open files and programs are actually weeks old and have been running there in the background the whole time. Even worse, your computer is infected with spyware that keeps causing annoying advertisements to pop up. You’ve tried to close these unwanted files and pop-ups many times. You’ve installed anti-spyware programs and rebooted your computer.

But those pesky things just keep coming back. The best you can do is to minimize or ignore them so you can focus on the other half-dozen tasks you’re actively juggling at any one time…

Welcome to a woman’s mental and emotional world—a world that has probably affected yours more than you realize. Here’s what our surveys found:

  • First, most women juggle multiple thoughts and feelings at the same time.
  • Second, about half of all women have stored thoughts or feelings from the past that regularly pop up into active mode whether they want them to or not.
  • Third, women seem consistently unable to close these windows as easily as men can. Our survey shows that the vast majority of women just aren’t wired to easily ignore unwanted thoughts. As one woman said: “The best I can do is to ‘minimize’ the other windows, not close them. I’m not actively thinking about those things every minute, but they aren’t gone, either. And they often pop back up and become active when I don’t want them to.”

Here’s a way that you can almost certainly relate to what this feels like. Imagine that your company just lost its biggest client, and at 5:00 p.m. on Friday your boss says, “I’ll need to see you in my office first thing Monday morning.” If you’relike me, your weekend is ruined, and anxious thoughts wreak havoc until Monday arrives. Your normal ability to compartmentalize is compromised by the magnitude of the concern. Women aren’t that dissimilar—it’s just that their magnitude threshold is far lower than ours. Just as you couldn’t close out the anxious thoughts about what might happen on Monday, she can’t close out all sorts of open windows.

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I agree with this answer. In my personal experience, the only way to get an emotion out of the way is to solve the issue that causes it. And if it cannot be solved, then accept that there's nothing for you to do about it. For a while I've searched for ways to avoid these, but in the long term I've found that if there's something distracting you, it's better to deal with it than avoiding it. –  Alpha Nov 14 '12 at 22:44
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