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If something bad happens to me in a day, I can't remove that bad experience from my mind; at least for that entire day or sometimes for next 2-3 days (no matter how small that bad experience is). And because of that thought in mind, I can't concentrate on other tasks. It results into loss of my time & productivity. Could someone please suggest a solution to remove that bad experience from mind as quickly as possible & start working on other tasks?

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The best solution to remove the bad experience from your mind is to think about it. If you try to avoid it, it will chase you like an annoying fly.

Just say to yourself: "Now I have 15 minutes to sit and think about that bad stuff and I will figure out for myself why it bothers me. After that I will have 15 minutes to sit and think about what needs to be done in my life and why it is important to me and how other things are insignificant".

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Thanks! The same I was thinking. Your answer assured me to do that. –  grm Jun 4 '13 at 8:30
    
I have found this approach extremely helpful. I sit and put on the "heartless logical cap" to review whatever is bothering me and come to the most logical conclusion I can, and what would be the logical next step (I don't have a 15 min rule, but often we already know what we Should do, even if we don't like it) Example, have a confrontation with your boss. Review what happened, what makes the most sense going forward? Act on it. To keep up with life you don't have time to waste on drama. File it away as lesson learned and proceed accordingly. –  RualStorge Mar 25 at 17:45

Could someone please suggest a solution to remove that bad experience from mind as quickly as possible & start working on other tasks?

Start working on other tasks. That's it. There is no magical solution. Maybe try listening to some music. Try and keep your mind diverted. Read a book. Read a long article about something you like online.

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This is especially true when there is nothing productive you can do with regards to the bad experience, or your efforts to improve the situation have been fruitless. By diverting your attention from the situation you force yourself to calm down and pass the dangerous "don't make decisions in this state" period. –  Michael Mar 17 at 21:53

As I mentioned in a different thread, one of the things that I do in situations such as this is a 3-fold mindset:

  1. Remember/remind myself of what I have accomplished.

  2. Remind myself of what is needed to be done - basically go into 'work mode'.

  3. Remember that you are not answerable to anyone else. Your happiness is your own.

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Playing “Tetris” after viewing traumatic material reduces unwanted, involuntary memory flashbacks to that traumatic film, leaving deliberate memory recall of the event intact. Pathological aspects of human memory in the aftermath of trauma may be malleable using non-invasive, cognitive interventions. This has implications for a novel avenue of preventative treatment development, much-needed as a crisis intervention for the aftermath of traumatic events.

Conclusion from "Can Playing the Computer Game “Tetris” Reduce the Build-Up of Flashbacks for Trauma? A Proposal from Cognitive Science"

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What generally works for me is watching funny videos, sitcoms or engaging episodes. It might not make you instantly productive, but will hopefully help get the bad experience out of your head. Your mind can be a little more relaxed after the viewing.

Some people suggest reading; however, I believe that reading is a more active process, and requires concentration, which is hard, and we tend to give up, and harp on our negative thoughts. I'd recommend a more passive activity like viewing.

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