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Last night I went on a first date with a girl I met on a dating app.

The date went well, and we've organised a second date. However, I've started over thinking the text game, worry about screwing things up.

This has affected my productivity. - I didn't get out of bed because I was thinking about it, and have been thinking about it at work.

Are there any tips for staying focused and being productivity, while navigating these initial stages of a relationship?

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Why don't you just enjoy being up to your ears in it for a while? The first stage won't last long and then (even if everything goes very well) you'll miss these feelings. :) – I.M. Nov 7 '13 at 16:30
Are you focusing on romance or loss of productivity? – JeffO Nov 12 '13 at 2:15
The problem is the loss of productivity. – dwjohnston Nov 12 '13 at 4:02
There must be a balance between work and leisure. In the initial stages of dating people tend to be smitten with an individual causing them to naturally think about them more, do more things with them, etc. I think the best thing you can do is plan out your time; allot time for work, and time for your significant other. It helps to make them mutually exclusive. – Gaʀʀʏ Dec 21 '13 at 18:51
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When trying to regain focus on tasks, Mindfulness training is very useful. It's basically a meditation technique, inspired by Buddhism. According to scientific studies, as little as two weeks of such training can significantly improve one's reading comprehension, working memory capacity, ability to focus and neglect distractions whenever they occur. In effect, you will be able to "switch off" your mind's obsession with this girl at will, instead focusing on the duties you need to take care of.

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