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How is this related to productivity?

  • Sales people require lots of energy and enthusiasm... which is a trait of extroverts. When you're an introverted sales person, you're likely to have a bad time!
  • When you're extroverted, you're less shy. When you're less shy, you are more able to get things done, than when you are shy! Why? Because you are more confident.


I consider myself an introvert. (Whether there's something right or wrong with being an introvert is your own opinion.)

However, I would like to become an extrovert, and be that guy full of positive energy and fun in the party. I want to be the guy who is the centre of attention at the party. I want to be that guy, in like 5 years time.

Currently, I am the guy who is part of the group, but more of a silent observer. I am also the guy who is absolutely OK and comfortable being alone in the party. But I want change, and don't know how.

So, readers, how can I change from an introvert, to the life of the party, in 5 years time? What gradual changes must I make? What different lifestyle must I adopt?

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closed as off-topic by Jeanne Boyarsky Jan 6 '14 at 4:20

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This question appears to be off-topic because it is not related to personal productivity. – Jeanne Boyarsky Jan 6 '14 at 4:20
I think the ability to network effectively in social situations is very much a good topic for productivity – Manuel Hernandez Jan 6 '14 at 4:40
daCoda - See Susan Cain's TED Talk: Shyness isn't the same as introversion. There are also many introverted people who are super confident and productive. Your lack of understanding of this is precisely why this isn't a Productivity question. Consider reformatting this to focus on a specific problem you're facing and how you can become more productive. Hope this helps! :) – jmort253 Jan 9 '14 at 4:29
An introvert can be the life of the party. An introvert can be likeable, outgoing, and perfectly comfortable in social situations, even large groups. Your understanding of introverts and extroverts is a little off its axis. Introverts are people who tend to feel drained by extended time in social situations, whereas extroverts are people who tend to feel energized and revitalized by the same. Kramii makes an excellent point, but wanting to be an outgoing, life-of-the-party kind of person and wanting to become an extrovert are different things. – asfallows Jan 9 '14 at 13:55
Following up on the comment by @jmort253, I'd recommend reading Susan Cain's book "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". It'll definitely make you feel better about your introverted ways. Heck, check out the amazon comments for the book and it's like a mass introverts coming-out party! – eflat Jan 15 '14 at 0:03