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I know this question is very situation based. But I really need help. Please provide your thoughts. It would be really useful for me.

I have to appear for an exam in June which require lot of dedicated study time. I was going fine with my studies spending 1-2 hours daily and more on weekends.

Then, my husband went to US on long term assignment. My company also applied for my Visa and got into preparing for that which took sometime. During all this time I was hoping to get the visa and then spend lot of time on studies once there. But last week my Visa was rejected. Now I am alone in India (with MIL) and deeply sad.

Its been more than 2 weeks since I studied. I am not able to pick the books or even think of studies. How can I get myself motivated and go back to study. I know now I have lost lot of time and everyday my chances of passing the exam are decreasing.

Thanks, Me

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closed as off-topic by Rory Alsop Mar 4 '14 at 22:16

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This question appears to be off-topic because it is not about personal productivity. As mentioned below it sounds like you should seek some professional help for possible depression. – Rory Alsop Mar 4 '14 at 22:16

That sounds like depression. Maybe look at it like an illness or ailment and find a doctor or a support group.

Or get outside and get some sunshine and some exercise. Do something do anything. Once you start doing one thing, you'll want to do more (see tips section).

I'm not saying "snap out of it". I'm saying recognize what it is and find a way to help yourself.

You have plenty of time before June, so work on yourself first and then focus on the exam.

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This is not depression; this is unhappiness. These two things are often confused, but they are not the same thing. If the OP now had a chance to be with her husband, the unhappiness would likely be removed. That's not the case with depression. It stays with you, regardless of your situation. – John H Mar 4 '14 at 14:16

Raystafarian IS Right you are closer to depression. You are in a situation where what you need(passing the exam) and what you want(to be with your husband) is different.And your mind is continuously taking you away from what you need to what you want.Here only your commitment can get you the thing what you need. Here I would add that you need to understand that your visa has been reject so there are less chances for you to be with your husband and you have some time left for exam so you need concentrate more towards that. Being around with positive people and spiritual activities shall give you the strength for this.This is the time to strengthen you inner abilities.See your self in mirror and ask for commitment for yourself. It shall help you. And go through this link might help

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Hope you get out of this situation soon. All the best and be positive

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I suggest you have a look at Eric Thomas, as he is can be an inspiration for everyone in a bad situation trying to be successful.

Personally, whenever something bad happens, I laugh at it because things can always get worse. I laugh because I'm thankful that things aren't worse.

I wish you the best of luck.

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