Before I begin, I must clarify that I am a teenager and a programmer and this is going to be a long post.
My case might resonate with other teenagers or it may not but anyways, here it goes.
I know that to err is human and every error has its consequences - dire or not. And I do believe that a single person cannot be blamed, squarely, for errors.
This has been my case for as long as I can remember; ever since childhood, I should say. Be it academics, home or whatever, I have been blamed squarely for everything. I was supposed to act "responsibly".
As an example, we have group projects in Uni. Not all the people put in the same amount of time and effort into a particular project. The end result is that a part of the project is good while the other is sub par. And as you might have figured it out, I get blamed for "not motivating the group enough and not checking on their progress". Home hasn't been any different.
I did try talking it out with those who blame me (parents and teachers mostly) and the one reason that they always give me is "so that you will act more responsibly and be a better person". In fact, it is to the contrary.
- I have begun running away from responsibilities. It puts me in a spot where I can be blamed.
- I refuse to let people work with me. Much worse, I will be blamed for others' mistakes.
- I procrastinate a lot. What if I am just not good enough?
How does one deal with a situation like this? I does affect one's career and outlook on life.