Why something is done. The reasons and rationales for one's thoughts, feelings or actions.

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How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?

Some examples of such activity: browsing this site without a particular goal browsing your friends' profiles on social networks reading news hugging with you spouse (endlessly) watching TV You can ...
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What is a good way to begin your work day?

I work for a very small company and most of the time I work alone and manage my own work and don't get much feedback. I'm not completely used to this and though I have projects and to do lists and ...
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Good at writing Todo lists, but awful at doing them

At night, before going to bed, I write a TO-DO list to remember what I want to do tomorrow. It includes everything I wish to do, like what I wished to do when I was a child! When I get up in the ...
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Why does nothing motivate me?

I have had so many family issues that they made me a "bad" person. In simple words, I don't care about anything. People, problems, life in general. I have no morality, no god, no nothing. I am 20 ...
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Why do I start wasting time when I am excited about learning some technical stuff?

I make plans, todo lists, etc. about the technical stuff which I have to study. I am not, but I do wish to become an excellent C++ programmer. Now, when I am pretty excited about learning the stuff, ...
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Am I destroying my career as a software engineer [closed]

I have worked as a software engineer (.NET) for 2 years. Our job is easy and it doesn't require a lot of technical or conceptual knowledge. In fact, we always use console apps with XSLT and basic C# ...
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How to overcome lazyness and procastination?

My greatest defect. Present in almost all aspects of my live... Like my house, it's a mess right now, but I have time to clean, I just don't do it. I'd rather stay in bet and do nothing (high ...
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How to motivate people to self-improve themselves?

I'm the curious type of person that likes to learn more, do things in less time, do things better, etc. I take that as a personal challenge and I honestly love it. Of course, it IS a challenge, not ...
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Why am I not motivated in this excellent situation?

I am working as a freelance contractor. For a long time I have been paid by the hour. This has worked fine and my motivation has never been a problem. Now, I have gotten a deal where I get half of any ...
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What methods exist to keep yourself motivated when working alone?

When I studied, I went to the library to have some form of social control. The social pressure made me work better. I'm now working from home for a living. It's my first week and my motivation isn't ...
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Why am I wired to be motivated to go to work everyday and not motivated to do other things?

I have wondered for some time why I find it so hard to keep motivated to do things like exercising, reading, looking for business opportunities, getting up early etc. I have tried a raft of different ...
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How do I get my motivation going?

Often, tasks are delayed till a reasonable time before the deadline. Just because you feel like you can do it later; so, you are basically procrastinating by surfing the web, chatting with people, ...
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How to profit from quitting gaming? (aka how to overcome the quitter's anxiety?)

It always seemed to me that gaming itself was counterproductive, and I've always struggled to spend less time on it, but really never managed to. That is, until now. The only way I found to keep the ...
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Cannot start actual task

My problem is that whenever I try to learn a new programming language such as Java, I start and give it up after 2-3 days. If I think about starting to practice programming I feel it's a very boring ...
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When I'm going back to an old complex project, how can I restore my focus and motivation?

I've had a few weeks break from a large and difficult project that I've been working on for two years. The project could be a few weeks from shipping, if I can manage to focus on it. I've noticed a ...
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What could I do to convince myself to finish my projects?

Here: you can read : "Often, tasks are delayed till a reasonable time before the deadline. Just because you feel like you can do it later; [blabla] ..." This is not the real problem I've been facing ...
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Being an introvert, how do I move forward and not feel dejected with my progress?

I am a student who is introverted and I believe in making my own success. I set goals, plan my time well and work towards the goal. However, of late, I feel that I am moving towards my goals at a ...
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How to overcome the constant feeling of not being good enough?

I constantly and obsessively question myself during many kinds of activities. When I play Tetris, I cannot stop thinking that world class Tetris players have way faster motor and cognitive abilities, ...
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Dealing with Existential Crisis

I was reading a comic on PhDComics and although it is funny, sadly, it is also true. Grad students I know (including me) usually fall into one of these existential crisis at least once a semester. And ...
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How to remain productive in a lazy day?

For certain days in a month, when I wake up in the morning, I will just be lazy to do anything. No reason. I don't know why. I'm just feeling like I have no motivation whatsoever. Such a day will ...
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How to motivate yourself when you are in a company of a negative person?

No, deserting the person is not an option. This person rarely appreciates whatever I do. I am not an expert at anything for sure and am already a procrastinator, but constant finger pointing by that ...
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Why am I not making money and success even If I am organised, motivated and hard-working?

I am totally organised. I keep a file of everything, I monitor my activities, keep my expenses analytically, process my todo list and my projects with different types of gtd. I have an above average ...
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How to keep self promises unbreakable for long time?

Few days ago I promised myself that: I will be dedicated to my study for a long time. I will never watch any movie, never waste time on internet or x-box, etc. (sometimes I wish to break my x-box ...
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How to enjoy trying to solve hard problems?

How do I enjoy solving hard problems? I love learning--reading and understanding textbooks or papers, for instance--but I am slower to try to solve problems or apply what I've learned. I am naturally ...
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How can I get myself to go to sleep when I know I should?

I've read on resetting one's biological clock and clearing my mind before bedtime (and I do most of the things there, using F.lux, being physically active mostly every day), taking melatonin ...
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What is the key to be able to start a project?

I am not absolutely sure this is the correct place for this question, though I couldn't find a better one - please point me to a proper place if possible. I am a 13 year old guy, I love technology in ...
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How to get motivation to do important things in the morning?

I have developed a very bad routine of checking my emails, twitter and few other websites after waking up in the morning. Generally, i wake up at 8 AM and start with my important things very late, ...
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Losing Motivation during project

I am a Computer Engineer and working at a Software House as Software Engineer for the last 2 years. I usually observe things a lot and try to get an idea from everything to do something ...
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How to stop talking LOUDLY to myself?

I have a habit of talking "loudly" to myself. I get an immense satisfaction by doing so. At the same time, I tend to do this in the market, while driving the scooter, working on a C program. ...
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Are there techniques to stop fearing confrontation so intensely?

Confrontation is a huge part of my life. For example, in my job as project manager I need to confront clients about things that might make them upset or I need to talk to them when I know they are ...
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Too lazy to do programming?

I am a programmer, or could be called so because with my laziness with programming I am more often doing half a job and then start gaming. The other half I do tomorrow, next week or next month. What ...
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How to better switch gears between tasks?

I can never get myself to start things. When I do, however, and there's an unsolvable problem that needs solving, if I pick up even a little momentum in trying to solve it, I will stay on the ...
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How do I prevent myself from feeling too relaxed during the uneventful weeks preceding big deadlines?

The situation goes like so: big deadline one month from now. So I make some plan. But it gets too easy to procrastinate early on, to put one thing off, to allow a distraction here & there. How ...
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Putting limits on one's time online

As per Piers Steel's "procrastination equation", Motivation = (Expectancy x Value) / (Impulsiveness x Delay) I find that most of my own procrastination tends to involve the Internet and the easily ...
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Are artificial incentives a good idea to boost productivity?

If there's projects or tasks I've been meaning to get around to doing, could adding a reward or incentive program provide me artificial motivations to completing these projects or tasks? (In general, ...
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Erratic productivity

I consider myself a productive person. I get most of my things done to a level which I'm happy with. But sometimes my productivity just goes down the drain. I sleep in to the point of oversleeping ...
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Burnout in the middle of semester

I am a student studying the last semester of a 2-year Master's course. My performance in the last three semesters has been according to my expectations. In my last winter break, I had spent almost all ...
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How do I energize and motivate myself?

I feel like I am always low on energy, my mood is always sad. I feel depressed all the time and I feel like blood rushing through my veins. I know this is all because I keep failing at all the things ...
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How do I get back to doing what I love?

A little background. I started coding in C++ about 5 years ago. Ever since then, I was sure that I wanted a life in code :) In my last 2 semesters, I wrote quite a bit of code for varied purposes. ...
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How do I maintain high levels of productivity when working with flexible deadlines?

When I am not under pressure I am not working nearly as hard as I can. Here are some examples: When I have a task for exactly X days I will always complete it on time. For example a commission of a ...
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What motivators can I use to encourage my team to track their time?

Our team has repeatedly tried to implement time-tracking tools to help us more realistically estimate the effort required for our development projects. Unfortunately, regardless of the tools we try, ...
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How do I start working even having scheduled my day and long term tasks?

I have read things about productivity techniques here and in other places but I still can't get focused. Currently I am searching my first big paid job as I am a recent graduate. I also am designing ...
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How to stop watching movies?

Alright, this may sound weird but how do I stop watching movies? In my religion people generally don't watch movies for many reasons: it shows stuff we are prohibited from doing, may have influences, ...
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How to focus on small periods of time that I find available for my personal projects every day?

During a day I schedule a lot of things, including work, entertainment, routine things, house stuff etc, plus unexpected tasks that usually can't wait. So, there are not a few times that I find some ...
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Too much time and too little to do. What to do?

I feel I am living in enforced nonproductivity right now, and would like to find ways to create opportunities for productivity. What can one do to create purpose and interest that doesn't cost money ...
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How to keep the “spark” alive after graduating and starting to work?

I have recently graduated from college and started working quite far away from home (1200 miles appx). And I am finding this new life, new daily routine a little too easy to adjust to. I am an ...
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How can I get rid of the psychological effects of bad experiences from the past?

As a college student, I had my shares of failures in exams, courses, quite a handful of it, so much that it resulted in my one year extension in the university. With this I feel that my past failures ...
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How to live a life that doesn't require constant tension for livelihood? [closed]

When I was jobless, for days I used to search for a profession that will give me a balance of relaxation, monetary solvency, education and social status in the context of my country. Then after much ...
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What Android applications schedule tasks which appear each day?

I have some tasks to complete everyday (the same task every day) or on a weekly basis (e.g. every Saturday) and during a particular period (e.g. January 10 to April 20). Are there any applications ...
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Working before breakfast--for how long should one go?

I find that my absolutely most productive time is right as I wake up, especially if it's early--5am-ish till probably 7am is that sacred window of time. I always do things that I really want to do ...