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From my experience the noise-cancelling headphones will not work for longer periods. I know you said about music and that you concentrate on it instead. In my experience it is about a choice of the music. There are a few points to consider. I found that the music needs to be instrumental, not vocal. If there is any vocal at least it must be in a language ...


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I have found that Personal Kanban by your desk can help to show others what is your load and what are the tasks you are going to take next. This can help you and others understand what you do and be more open about it. Simple example of Personal Kanban:


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Whether to share or not is out of scope for this site. Regardless, you need to move on so you can concentrate. Write something down. On paper. Don't share it; you can decide whether to do later when you are less upset. Talk to friends/vent. Punch something if it makes you feel better. Try to practice concentrating on something fun like watching tv or ...


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I am not a conversation specialist but here are some tips that I have been using and I've found them pretty effective. 1) Be the first one to listen, and be the last one to talk. Most of the time you can solicit enough information in the discussion and then come up with a summarizing statement. Those kinds of statement are usually harder to debunk because ...


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Your boss is living two roles. One is the boss and the other is a mentor. This is very common, many bosses do and we should be grateful. However, the double role creates confusion in his mind and also in yours. You both need to be careful. The boss relationship is formal and legal and accordingly must be given higher priority over mentoring. Mentoring is an ...


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Email is "asynchronous", there is inherent delay because you are not communicating at the same time. However, that is also its biggest advantage. You don't have to wait for the other side to be available before you write your email. Text chats, phone calls, and meetings are "synchronous". You need the participants to be available (can be hard to get) before ...


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Use email when you think it's the most convenient way to communicate. There are no rules as to when to use email and when to not, just a matter of personal preference.. then some people have worse preferences than other.. However: To get a clear and fast response: Ask direct questions Get to the point fast Write short e-mails, they're easier to answer ...


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You can take help from your friends, ask them or you too on you own record your voice and then sincerely listen to it. Try to understand the pattern of your speech, i.e at what instance or at what mental status your volume pitch is high. Another time when you are talking to someone else try to remember those instances that you feel while recording. Another ...


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A general purpose answer to questions of the form "How do I get better at X?" is "Do more X." In this case, find ways to practice listening to fast speech in situations that are not quite so stressful as a work assignment. Many mp3 players and media players have a way to accelerate playback. You could find relevant spoken word content (podcasts, for ...


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Your first sentence may not be correct, if listeners are not understanding you. Video yourself speaking and check for these: Do you take your time Do you pause for breath Do you speak with an accent Are you using words your audience is familiar with Presenting well takes time and practice so get your pace and speed right, as well as enunciation and ...


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Are you speaking too quickly? Are you speaking too slowly? Is this a word that often will be mispronounced? There are lots of different possibilities here and the key is to find out from others what are they hearing versus what you think you are saying. For example, asphalt will often be pronounced similar to "ashphalt" even though it isn't spelled that ...


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Do not forget to find out who of your roommates has the same problems and have them help both to complain to the noisemakers. complain to the management about the contraproductive work environment. You won't believe the rubbish they get told about the "productivity of open space environments" and how rarely their victims actually complain.


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CareerBuilder has published an article that pretty much addresses your problems. In short: Be proactive in communicating, don't wait for your boss to tell you what's important Spend more informal time around your boss Try to transform your boss relationship into a mentor relationship Be a good employee. Confidence comes with positive experiences --- from ...


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The two things you can do to really help here are: Go in with a solid agenda that covers everything you want to discuss. This won't help you with something that comes completely out of left field but it at least helps you organise your thoughts. Practice: this can be anything from debating to improv theatre. If you feel you lose the initiative in these ...


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Tell person A to get a notepad and start writing things down. The language is not the issue here.


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How to Win Friends and Influence People has some good ideas: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People Don't criticize, condemn, or complain. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Arouse in the other person an eager want. Six Ways to Make People Like You Become genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Remember that a ...


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Not sure about that brand specifically, but noise-cancelling earphones + (relatively quiet) music worked for me, when I was in a similar situation. The noise cancellation isn't perfect, but mutes the outside sounds enough that music is capable of drowning them out almost completely. (Note: the above setup made it somewhat harder to get my attention, so my ...


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My solution for this: use the most comfortable in-ear phones I can (no noise cancelling necessary) and a program like Ambiance for background sounds (I prefer "rain on a tent" and surf sounds, etc). I find this more effective then noise cancelling and without the annoying amplification of my own sounds that I get with earplugs.


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The one detail I rarely see addressed when discussing what-form-of-communication-to-use-when is know your audience. Communication styles are not one-size-fits-all and using the wrong one can easily cause more inefficiency than any of the theoretical limitations of the medium. Some people have trouble being specific enough on the first pass and need a bit of ...


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I think it is a matter of my priorities: Have I been given a deadline by a boss or client? Am I unable to reschedule this task? e.g. Can't wait until next week because I'm at a conference. There is no negative history of contacting this other person. I'd be less inclined to automatically call, but it is something to think about. A big problem in many ...


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I would suggest making sure you aren't thinking about anything else - no distractions, but really the only real solution is practice. If your colleagues can fully understand him but you can't, my guess is they are either familiar with his accent or dialect, or have spent more time listening to fast speakers. Spend time listening to him and trying to ...


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Best thing to do is to move on. Forgive yourself and realize that getting cheated on or used is something that happened to a lot of people and will continue to happen and there is nothing you can possibly do to erradicate it. The only thing in your power is let go. Now if you know for sure he is gonna hurt someone specific, you can try and warn that ...


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Grammar can definitely aid or hurt your comprehension by others when an accent is involved. For example (and I understand written and spoken English can be different), your question: I pronounce word correctly. But listeners don't clearly understand my words. I speak in enough high volume. What to do? would be better said as: I pronounce words ...


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I tried listening to music also, but after some time your ears get hurt and that's disturbing. Now that you mentioned ear-plugs, I got an idea that you can put in your ear-plugs and then some big headphones to cover ear-plugs so people are not "offended". But for the long term, it's best to practice concentration to sharp the focus on only what u do.


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The only way to do this is through love. That is, propose a different perspective and a loving way. Be humble, show humility and respect others regardless of who they are. I learned this from the Bible, Jesus as the ultimate example. Love is not a feeling we have; it's a decision to treat people the way Jesus would treat them.


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This seems to be a fairly simple one: have each of the workers create a new email alias that is unrelated to any other email account and which they only use for your project, and then use whichever of the many online collaboration tools you like. Bear in mind, the classic... All you really have to do, is tell your team that you want them to be ...


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Being overloaded is tough. Can you categorize what you work on at all? If you work on multiple projects/applications, that is one way. Otherwise, you can do it by the "areas" you mentioned - bug fixing, development, writing reports, etc. Don't forget meetings and mentoring others if you do that. Another thing to think about is how long this has been ...


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If it happens while you're participating in a discussion, you should consider using your "guess" in the conversation, like: "It seems you're concerned about XYZ." or "I bet it's exciting to see ABC happen." This is the best way to verify your ability to read facial expressions, it operates as a feedback loop between you and person who is speaking.



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