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Shawn Achor, an expert in positive psychology, argues that the notion of happiness coming after success has things the wrong way around. He argues that with success - as we approach our goal, we quite naturally and reasonably, redefine success and move the goal posts further away (eg, I've got a job, now I want a better job, I'm exercising regularly, now I ...


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Research indicates that people who give in to temptations have a problem visualizing future outcomes: What happens now is clear and concrete (candy is lying in front of you) while the future often is vague and fuzzy. The Marshmallow experiment showed the effects of this. Scientists say treatments should involve de-emphasizing the present (making it more ...


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Well, I think you first need some long term goals because in the case you don't have them, it shouldn't be a problem to search only instant gratification. I'm also in this situation and I don't think it is a problem to seek for short term gratification: I usually subdivide my long term goals in short term ones, so I can search gratification and also work on ...


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Stephen Covey's "personal mission statement" from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People might be a good way to start thinking about what your loftier goals could be. The process he outlines doesn't sound like it would lead to the goals themselves, but point you to the values you have that will influence them. If you don't mind a slightly New Age-y ...


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Hide temptation ("get thee behind me Satan!") for things which produce immediate outcomes. I find that looking at a calendar motivates me to see the big picture and move towards deadlines. Check your calendar frequently. Talking about what you need to do to get your deferred rewards tends to make it more "salient". Talk about it. You think about what you ...


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There is a Zig Ziglar quotation that applies well to your situation: "Motivation is like showering: required daily." As one step, I'd suggest finding a handful of quotations, images, or other motivations to which you can constantly expose yourself. "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" comes to mind, plus perhaps a mock-up of an Etsy ...


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Dopamine is responsible for happiness ...and you can be more happy by being more productive but it's not exclusive to productivity. If something is perceived as reward-worthy by the cerebral cortex. it releases dopamine and as a result you feel happy. When you eat food you like, receive comfort from another person, or experience a victory in everyday life, ...


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Yes improving your productivity make you happy. By increasing productivity increase you can earn more money by better career and can use it make your lifestyle better. Some people say that you cannot buy happiness by money, according to me those people don't know where they need to do shopping for buy happiness. Actually productivity and happiness are ...


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People think the more time you put in the more you get out. However the truth is, the more thought you put in the more you get out. Meaning that the fact that you are doing all these things is good, not just in general but also for you and your personality. On the other hand, average results probably mean you are doing it like everybody else and thus obtain ...


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"Plan from the future". In order to have C at date Z, I need to complete B at date Y, and therefore A needs to be done at date X (X < Y < Z). That way you have good intermediate checkpoints. Then break down into smaller parts. Reward yourself. In your schedule, plan rewards as well - things you really want, maybe even think you should not have/do ...


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It would depend on which core values are not in alignment. If the company violates your personal standards of decency I would get out ASAP. Look for another company in the industry where you can at least get by. If your core values are OK, but you are seeking a new field or a new industry, I can understand that obligations may exist where you need to be ...


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Think who may be your perspective clients - people that you can provide value to. Think about the way you can maximize the total amount of value that you can provide to clients. Act accordingly. Be ready to totally change your activities if it will increase the total amount of value.


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Here's the story of someone doing that with Beeminder, the very short version of which is that he set up a graph of his time spent studying and then created a commitment device to force himself to maintain a certain number of hours per week (keeping all his datapoints on the Yellow Brick Road, in Beeminder's parlance): http://blog.beeminder.com/gandalf


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If You Don't Know Why Deep Down Inside ... Usually these higher level goals and the roles in our lives we fulfill are driven by emotional factors. In other words its just something you know in your heart. You want to be a better cook, a better friend a better parent, a more skilled professional, athlete or musician. There is no question then as to why we ...


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Maintain a high level of communication with your professor and other students. Build habits around this. Help others with the material. Other people's questions will spur more learning of you own when you have to get down and explain the subject matter to others. Get comfortable asking questions and be really curious Make use of office hours. Read the ...


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When you are unclear about what you want to do next, whether its the next ten minutes or the next ten years it helps to approach the question considering David Allen's "Horizons of Focus" A career choice is a fairly high level of focus spanning 10-20 years. It revolves around the vision of how your life should look like; where you want to live, how much ...


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There are two things about it in my mind: Maybe you have too many projects and they do not allow you to have a great success on one of them. You need to put there an another value, something more to make it special and successful. Maybe focus on one project now, after reaching your target in it (or losing enthusiasms), you will move to another. There is ...


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I'm a little late to the party but I noticed something in your question I'd thought could be the crux of the issue. Was doing a search on this issue myself so I don't have this figured out, but I have an idea so let me know what you think. You mentioned that you're breaking your goals into multiple tasks, which is great. I do this too, with wunderlist. ...


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One good method is designing from the future: In order to have final goal Z on date D26, subgoal Y needs to be met on date D25 - etcetera The process is not nessarily lineair in task (it is in time), if A and B are requirements for C, you plan A-B-C or B-A-C. This method gives you the advantage that at any date you planned, you can check if you're still ...


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These are all things which I used to do all time: 1) Check the old exam papers and spend some time on teaching scheme & exam pattern. 2) Prepare a plan about what kind of topics and subjects have been asked in past. Try to figure out average weight-age of topics. 3) Depending on weight-age prepare a plan, which topics you will complete first and ...


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Happiness is only a temporary emotion. On the other hand, joy is the manifestation of that happiness, something that's much more lasting than being happy you ate a burger or listened to your favorite song. I would argue that finding happiness and joy does not come from what you do but your outlook and perception of a situation. For example: You might be ...


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I don't think you know what your goals are - I don't say this with disrespect, but rather to help you. What are your goals. S.M.A.R.T. goals? Objective: physical wellness Goals: x minutes running, y calories taken These goals and systems are just part of the physical wellness. Physical wellness can't be achieved, it's not like you say "I ran x minutes, ...


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Goals and Systems are just constructs to help you identify what you want to aim for, and steps to take to get there. Your question on whether you should work on systems or goals is a very personal one. It sounds like you are having difficulty at breaking longer term goals down into bite size chunks. Financial Independence can be a very long term goal. ...



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