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He needs intrinsic motivation, a reason for him to do the work required. Without that, all well meant attempts will fail. So if there's anything you want to contribute it would be to have a conversation about his motivation. The four points you come up with are not about that, so forget them. That conversation has a prerequisite: is he willing to have ...


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I remember Richard Dawnkins quote and apreciate how lucky we are: “We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Arabia. ...


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One of the things I tell my kids is that to get someone else to do something you have to get them to want to do it. Until your friend wants to change, he won't. And when he does, he'll do it in the way that he thinks is right, which may not mesh with what you think is right. The underlying issue is self-image. There's a saying that every person finds what ...


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Keeping in mind my conflict of interest which is about to become obvious, there are a bunch of tools you could point such a person to. Ie, commitment device apps, especially those that focus on turning long-term goals into a hard commitment to make steady daily progress. You'll never believe which tool I think does that best (it's Beeminder). Here's a list ...



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