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It sounds like the core of your issue is a need for frequent goals that stretch you, in order for you to feel challenged. This is relatively straightforward to deal with: rather than define a single long term goal, list the milestones that need to be completed in order to reach that end goal This lets you focus in the near future with the frequent ...


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Am I destroying my career? Yes you are... UNLESS you gain knowledge outside your current job you will become quite value-less to other companies. You have to keep yourself current. I worked as a SENIOR software developer for 11 years and when I changed positions I was clueless as to all other technologies and methodologies. I had no idea what Scrum was ...


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Steven Covey likens efficiency is climbing a ladder as fast as you can, but views effectiveness as making sure it's leaning against the right wall. You're obviously efficient - you're organised, intelligent, skilled and experienced. But are you effective? Are you applying your talents in the right direction? Your previous questions suggest that you take ...


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Try to make your promises more realistic. Saying you will NEVER waste time isn't going to happen. Instead give yourself a time budget for fun things. Like you will limit yourself to one movie a week. You will limit your internet time to X per day. Etc. You can also come up with a way to reward yourself. For example, you can watch a movie after you ...


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I've been a .NET developer for going on 12 years and I'm still as passionate today as I was on day one. If you're stuck witting console apps and don't have much variety in your development work this can be difficult. I think I would probably feel the same as you in this position. The thing that has kept .NET interesting for me is learning all the new ...


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The answer to your question is simple but requires a "different" type of hardwork. First Some Background Success, or more specifically, succeeding on a relative scale requires doing what other people in your "boat" (e.g coworkers, friends, equally educated/privileged people) aren't doing. Lifehacker had an article a while back on how most people live in a ...


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What I hear you saying is that you sometimes enjoy striving for a goal and solving problems to get there, but then when you reach your destination, the feeling of accomplishment does not last. I also hear you saying that it's hard for you to stay interested or inspired long enough to make progress on many things you thought you'd like to do. You also had ...


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That's a pretty wide and general questions, so I can give you a few general pointers that have helped me. Of course, if you can get more in to details then I'm sure I too can be more specific :) First, I'm not a psychologist, just a generalist who like to constantly challenge myself to be more productive, enjoy life and be happy. Looking at myself a few ...


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Those factors you mention in your question may have no relevance to being successful. An IQ of 141 doesn't make you good ad making money, or a successful entrepreneur. It just says you scored 141 on a test. Similarly, everyone in my industry has a university degree - it is not a differentiator. When I hire, I see degree on a CV/resume as simply an ...


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Summarizing what I've read in tons of productivity books, the single most important factor in someone's success is grit. Not IQ, not money, not education, not experience. Your final position in life is proportional to how much discomfort you're willing to put yourself through to get what you want. Many of us aren't working minimum wage jobs because we ...


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There are two levels on which to approach this: personal and task-level. For the next task you are going to do, ask the person what success looks like. In other words, what would you have to do to correctly complete the task. Sometimes just the act of saying it out loud is enough and reducing the possibility for subjective criticizing later. It also ...


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I had similar problem long back. I used to begin a task, work on it regularly for 2-3 days and then give up. Like I began learning keyboard playing. I bought a keyboard and a book. I practiced everyday for one hour for two weeks. Then I had to go for a trip and once returned, I never touched the keyboard again. I found that this happened when you decisions ...


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I agree with both Jeanne Boyarsky's answer and matthewp's answer but I would just like to add the following: Make your promises more precise. For example you say "I will dedicate to my study for a long time" which is rather vague. How much is a long time? It will work better if you quantify it and say for example "At college I will visit all lectures for ...


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When being lazy, be as best as you can at that; lazy! Relax! However, as David Allen (author of Getting Things Done) says: you can only be really relaxed when you are sure that the things you are not thinking about, are things you don't need to be thinking about...* That sounds complex: Make sure that you have all the things that are on you mind on a place ...


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I think this is a more sophisticated version of the questions we often get on gamification. I don't think there is much question that modern video games draw the user into a near-perfect state of flow. Looking at the three components: Clear goals. Immediate feedback. A balance between opportunity and capacity. We can draw parrells with GTD's next ...


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Flow is overrated. Persistence is the key. If you persist in working no matter how you feel and what you are in the mood to do, you will beat everyone who has the idea they must be in a flow state to work. You will get into a flow state at times, but it is best not to rely on it as necessary to work. So never worry about it, it will come naturally when the ...


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The bottom line is that you can't really change anyone else, but you can provide an environment that makes change more likely. There are three basic areas that you can tackle that may encourage change in someone else: their understanding about the need for change, their feelings about the change and the environment in which change occurs. The Heath Brothers ...


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If you don't know where to start, then just start with the simplest way. Then look back at your code, and refactor it (not rewrite, but refactor). Rinse and repeat until you are happy with your result. For my own game I did this. In fact I improved the original creators code on GitHub, then I "adopted" the game and made it my own. Then I attempted rewrite ...


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I used to have the same problem, you generally break your promise to do something because it's either boring or not very rewarding. So, if you continue doing the thing, in the end it gets you stressed and you want to go back to your comforts again. Here are some things that helped me stay in focus. step 1- You need to find the right reason, like, why am ...


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Do something radical, change your life. Go travel the Andes for half a year. Join the peace core. Hike the PST. Enlist in the navy. The world is a vast and fascinating place, see more of it. Meet new kinds of people. Do new kinds of labor. Get out of your comfort zone. Don't sit around waiting for things to happen - stand up and make them happen. Read 'the ...


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Do not stop it, just schedule it. Choose best movies you can find and select special time for watching. For example, watch it on Friday night with fiends or family. If watching movies is a form of procrastination, you need to think about what part of your life you're trying to avoid to think about or what job you're trying not to do. Then do this job ...


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I have occasionally been in a similar situation before, and there's one thing that has gotten me out of it: I needed to work with my hands. I don't know what you do for a living, but I'm a software developer. I spend all of my work time sitting in front of a computer, and sometimes I need a break from that. What works for me is to do something more ...


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Be your own judge Ask yourself this question "Good enough for whom?" Who is your unseen judge? Is this an arbitrary judgement based on whims or is it an objective measurement. Make sure that your belief systems are on solid foundation of truth. Basing your worth on someone else's whims is not being fair to yourself. Practice Makes Perfect, or Natural ...


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The short answer: Just efing do it. Force yourself if you must. The long answer: If you are a professional programmer, consult your project manager with this. Tell him that you are having trouble with your productivity and talk to him about helping you divide your work into small tasks, which you will commit on a daily basis. If you are a hobbyist / ...


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For me it's always been about figuring out how to replace the things I am taking out of my life....not just taking things out. For instance, "Never waste time with stupid friends" - anytime this seems like it might happen, have a plan for what you'll do....like "call another friend", or study, or something/anything. It's hard to just stop doing something ...


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Here are some steps I have decided for myself as I have been dealing with the same. Decide upon a long term goal. How do you want to serve the society? what skills would you develop? Just make a decision ASAP. This is the most important step. Make a very detailed plan to achieve that. Consider the house analogy: small bricks make a wall, walls make a room, ...


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If you, like me, dont like to waste you time with sleep, I think you should try Polyphasic sleep. Polyphasic sleep involves taking multiple short sleep periods throughout the day instead of getting all your sleep in one long chunk. A popular form of polyphasic sleep, the Uberman sleep schedule, suggests that you sleep 20-30 minutes six times per ...


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I suggest two things: (Generalizing on Bloodcounts answer) Use external structures that force or remind you. There are tons of those you can think of: A list of (smaller) tasks and milestones, clearly visible ( It helps to plan 'back from the future': In order to accomplish C on day Z, I need to complete B on day Y, and for that I need to complete A on ...


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Your problem is "good colleagues", they're the ones that keep you at the level you are right now… if you want to do something get out of their lengthy lunches, long walks, useless chats. This will make you uncomfortable with your current state, but that’s the idea! As long as you stay with them, you'll be like them, don’t make friends in office just keep ...


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Here are some techniques to help: The first is the easiest. Keep a daily journal and write what you are grateful for every day. This starts to refocus your mind on the positive. If you feel able to do this, writing what you are grateful for in a public forum like Facebook or a blog is even better becasue you will get amazing feedback and inspire others to ...



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