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Am I destroying my career? Yes you are... UNLESS you gain knowledge outside your current job you will become quite value-less to other companies. You have to keep yourself current. I worked as a SENIOR software developer for 11 years and when I changed positions I was clueless as to all other technologies and methodologies. I had no idea what Scrum was ...


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The short answer: Just efing do it. Force yourself if you must. The long answer: If you are a professional programmer, consult your project manager with this. Tell him that you are having trouble with your productivity and talk to him about helping you divide your work into small tasks, which you will commit on a daily basis. If you are a hobbyist / ...


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I've been a .NET developer for going on 12 years and I'm still as passionate today as I was on day one. If you're stuck witting console apps and don't have much variety in your development work this can be difficult. I think I would probably feel the same as you in this position. The thing that has kept .NET interesting for me is learning all the new ...


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Life is more than just money. And energizing yourself can be done in multiple ways. I will go through several of them so you get an idea of the methods out there. Mind you, though, that motivation is a rather personal concept. Hence I can only help you on a global level. Finding out what really motivates you, I cannot help you with. It's a personal journey ...


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I suggest two things: (Generalizing on Bloodcounts answer) Use external structures that force or remind you. There are tons of those you can think of: A list of (smaller) tasks and milestones, clearly visible ( It helps to plan 'back from the future': In order to accomplish C on day Z, I need to complete B on day Y, and for that I need to complete A on ...


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You say you "do not have any courage to finish my thesis". It sounds like you are either worried if you'll finish your report in time or if it will be good enough to pass (or perhaps both?). Don't worry about this too much. Many students have this problem, especially at this stage of a final project. If your work hasn't been good enough your supervisor would ...


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That's a pretty wide and general questions, so I can give you a few general pointers that have helped me. Of course, if you can get more in to details then I'm sure I too can be more specific :) First, I'm not a psychologist, just a generalist who like to constantly challenge myself to be more productive, enjoy life and be happy. Looking at myself a few ...


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When being lazy, be as best as you can at that; lazy! Relax! However, as David Allen (author of Getting Things Done) says: you can only be really relaxed when you are sure that the things you are not thinking about, are things you don't need to be thinking about...* That sounds complex: Make sure that you have all the things that are on you mind on a place ...


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It's hard to work on a big goal all the time. You don't have anything until you reach the final goal. There is a talk by Ray Bradbury, which may be of help. What's important for you there is this: The problem with novels is that you can spend a whole year writing one and it might not turn out well because you haven’t learned to write yet. But the best ...


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Be your own judge Ask yourself this question "Good enough for whom?" Who is your unseen judge? Is this an arbitrary judgement based on whims or is it an objective measurement. Make sure that your belief systems are on solid foundation of truth. Basing your worth on someone else's whims is not being fair to yourself. Practice Makes Perfect, or Natural ...


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You have an advantage in your current position in that you have time to actually research and apply new technologies to what you are doing thanks to the pace in your environment, and you will get paid to do it. I would take as much advantage of that as possible to sharpen your skills.


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I have gone through what you've talking about and I can see myself through you. First of all you are young, so 20 means 20. Don't be overwhelmed - it's common to be desperate and make things more dramatic than they are. What I did to overcome this? I made a list of achievements. I am in my 30's and I've always wanted to do things so, I hate wasting time to ...


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I have occasionally been in a similar situation before, and there's one thing that has gotten me out of it: I needed to work with my hands. I don't know what you do for a living, but I'm a software developer. I spend all of my work time sitting in front of a computer, and sometimes I need a break from that. What works for me is to do something more ...


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First, change your language. You are not lazy; you are unmotivated. There is a world of difference. If you define yourself as "lazy" you're assuming the problem is a character flaw, and that implies that it will be difficult to fix underlying issue. This will lead to further lack of interest in fixing things (You also invite comments like "just * do it", ...


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When I started using a similar system I ran into the same issue with motivating myself when things were not staying on course. My solution was to change how I assessed things from a dont-break-the-chain approach to a percentage based system and adding additional life objectives. Using a spreadsheet, each day I'd track what objectives were achieved and ...


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I wouldn't say you're doing anything wrong, per se. You have an awareness that you draw energy from others instead of from within. Your personality is more extroverted than introverted. Instead of looking at it as if you're doing something "wrong" think of how you can use this awareness to place yourself in situations where you can achieve your goals. For ...


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If you, like me, dont like to waste you time with sleep, I think you should try Polyphasic sleep. Polyphasic sleep involves taking multiple short sleep periods throughout the day instead of getting all your sleep in one long chunk. A popular form of polyphasic sleep, the Uberman sleep schedule, suggests that you sleep 20-30 minutes six times per ...


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Maybe I should answer "How do I not handle failures in life". We have the tendency to attribute missed goals/targets/opportunities as things that are wrong with ourselves. I 'am' this-or-that. That is not an empowering conclusion. The ironic thing is: it's you drawing that conclusion. Where are the real life facts in there? There are none, it's just a ...


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Your problem is "good colleagues", they're the ones that keep you at the level you are right now… if you want to do something get out of their lengthy lunches, long walks, useless chats. This will make you uncomfortable with your current state, but that’s the idea! As long as you stay with them, you'll be like them, don’t make friends in office just keep ...


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Are you able to define which criteria the calendar doesn't satisfy? Otherwse the fact that the calendar method is motivating or not is just a subjective fact, therefore also all the other alternatives will be subjective. you are just limited by your fantasy and the answers would be very broad... whatever consists of piling or removing objects would work! ...


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You have nailed it, discipline is not replaceable. Go to sleep before midnight. I am not sure how you got the idea that 2AM is the sleep onset time for you - it is just about time when most people's cortisol levels are starting to climb slowly, which means - the body is starting to get ready for the next day. Best go to sleep around 10 PM or other time ...


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Practise going to bed and getting up at same hours until it becomes a habit, sleep well and long enough and don't rush it as your biological clock needs time to adjust. I know that motivation can help a lot but even biggest zealots would have trouble running before they learn how to walk. Getting up early is more difficult than staying up late. Start with ...


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You can improve your skills AND keep your job. You have spare time to learn - use it! Read up agile methodologies. Write unit tests. Introduce bug database. Etc. Read up Joel Spolsky advice: 12 Steps to Better Code and Getting Things Done When You're Only a Grunt and more.


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You have asked a fantastic question that I will try to answer as best as I can because I've at times felt the same as you. Sometimes it's better to look at your goal of self-fulfillment as an abstract rather than a metric. So many times, we tie our successes and failures to a specific activity or action and we forget why we did this activity or action in ...


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It is very rough preparing a thesis for any level. It may be argued that you need to feel (a controllable degree of) the 'fear' of non-completion. So... Be very clear of the physical requirements of the thesis (length guidelines, data collection requirements, etc.) Pre-structure your thesis - create the index for the so-far imaginary thesis - and go into ...


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Firstly make sure that the place where you do your work is comfortable and that you can minimize distractions. Not only can distractions prevent you from focusing in the first place but they can also cause interruptions in your flow once you've got going. To do this you can do things like turning off your phone, putting a do not disturb sign on your door, ...


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I am not a natural born programmer, but it is something that I have taught myself to tolerate and even enjoy at times. Here are a few things that helped me: 1.) find out which part of programming most interests you. "Programming" is such a large topic. Do you enjoy working with databases, creating web services? Then the "back-end" might be more your cup ...


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The Perfectionist's Handbook: Take Risks, Invite Criticism, and Make the Most of Your Mistakes by Jeff Szymanski discusses ideas of healthy and unhealthy perfectionism that may be worth noting here. Healthy perfectionism is about striving and having high standards but not always expecting that result. Thus, there is something to be said for having a standard ...


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There is a Zig Ziglar quotation that applies well to your situation: "Motivation is like showering: required daily." As one step, I'd suggest finding a handful of quotations, images, or other motivations to which you can constantly expose yourself. "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" comes to mind, plus perhaps a mock-up of an Etsy ...


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In all situations, to be more detached and not letting this mind war go on try this: write down the FACTS about the situation. What is undeniable, what happend, how often, etc. Be objective. write down your analysis of why this happend, ALL THE OPTIONS. Even the craziest. Now take a step back and discuss with people involved in the situation to check ...



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