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Like many quotes, they both convey very good advice but need to be taken in context. They're short and punchy to help people remember them in times of need...but to be more useful they should come with a clarifying footnote such as: Don't fear failure, you are the only one to realise your own potential (So long as you're prepared, you have little to ...


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He needs intrinsic motivation, a reason for him to do the work required. Without that, all well meant attempts will fail. So if there's anything you want to contribute it would be to have a conversation about his motivation. The four points you come up with are not about that, so forget them. That conversation has a prerequisite: is he willing to have ...


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The worst case scenario is when you're not being productive nor having fun. Take a day off (you've already lost many, so it won't matter much) and relax. Avoid thinking about studying and try to actually have fun. That's your 'rest day'; you can take one a week, as a reward for studying. It's hard to focus in working/studying when the objective is ...


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If things get bad, follow these steps. If you can, print them out and keep them about your person, so you can read them again and again: If you get lost or confused when reading through this list, go back to the top and start again: Hang in there. Things can and will get better. If things don't get better immediately, be patient. Take things one day at a ...


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An important thing to remember is that planning is not something that you do once and boom, you're done. All successful men share the habit of daily planning. However, as Henry Ford said, "thinking is the hardest work; there is nothing an ordinary man would not do to avoid it". Such everyday thinking will help you design both your goals and the means to get ...


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This is not specific to procrastination, but to every "New Year's resolution": if you do not back it up with actions, promises, and other structures, it remains just a good idea. It has no anchors in the reality of time and space. And as you notice, it is then easy to 'fall back'. Maybe after a week, maybe after 10 minutes. "Mwwweh, it wasn't such a good ...


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Firstly - depression is actually quite normal, in that it's quite common and affects a lot of people at some stage of their life. It's a product of your brain chemistry, not a reflection of your personal worth. This is relevant so that you understand that the way that you thinking and feeling aren't a result of your essential essence, but is a product of ...


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From your description the problem seems that your management does not take into account your mind status. Have you told them about your situation that you are feeling tired and losing motivation due to the workload you are facing and your personal issue ? I'm a manager myself and face this situation with my team members. Sometimes we have a rush and I need ...


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More what you're looking for is a personal mission statement. It's an expression of what you want to do with your short time on this planet -- what traces you want to leave, who you want to help, what you want to help them with, how, and why. This is bigger than a goal. You'll accomplish goals along the way, but if you reach a point where you say, "I'm ...


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I think about suiciding almost everyday Swallow your pride and get professional help. Depending on what country you're in, your doctor can probably advize you. You cannot expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to give you meaningful advice based on the four paragraphs you wrote. You also cannot expect to solve this on your own (well, maybe you can, ...


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I will put in a few things I learnt from reading books. Pick which suits you. I will give some examples to help you understand the concept better. B=MAT, B=Behaviour, M=Motivation, A=Ability, T=Trigger. So you need a behavioural change here. That is to workout regularly. Motivation for you then, maybe because you have friends who would appreciate your ...


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Before I advice you, I will like the point out the fact that I was in a similar or maybe worse spot than you. I will probably understand what you mean by craving for attention. I even understand better when you say: you want don't want to be the uncool and unpopular guy. First and foremost: remind yourself, the only one you have to impress is yourself. ...


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Nobody needs goals. It's just that if you say "I want to achieve X" you have defined a goal. And it's no use saying "I want to achieve X" if you are not prepared to do the work required to get there. Otherwise you could as well keep your mouth shut. And X either has a date, or you'd better set a date, otherwise you cannot plan the amount of work for each ...


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Do not underestimate the traditional solution. Coffee or tea. It is a proven way to wake you up. But make sure to not over do it. You can use this hours to the less creative tasks. Music can give you some energy. Have some human interaction. One on one meetings for example. You have to talk and that will keep you awake. Even better if you have to walk to ...


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You are exhibiting some of the classic signs of negative thinking. You're not alone: some of the most driven, creative and talented people struggled tremendously with their inner critic. Basically, your situation is not hopeless, it isn't even bad, it is very good considering. Unfortunately, you have developed an observational bias that doesn't allow you to ...


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One thing to keep in mind: Many medical issues have depression as a side effect: thyroid or adrenal deficiencies, diabetes. You can for example google "chronic fatigue syndrome" and find lists of issues that are a possible cause. If all of them have been tested negative, the doctor will call it CFS. I would suggest the following order: Go to an endocrinolgy ...


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Some suggestions: Pick some examples: Who do you consider people that have "achieved something big"? Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson? Read their autobiographies and in-depth interviews. Don't pick just one, everybody has their flaws, you need to generalize over multiple people. Pick three main goals in life: Once you feel that you have the potential ...


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Something to add to the already very good suggestions: start with the absolute smallest thing you can manage. Make a small commitment. Let's say you have to write a paper, and you really don't want to. The longer you procrastinate and resist, the bigger the job will be in your mind. After a few days of doing nothing, and worrying about how you're doing ...


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I would recommend that you look at "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg if you are able. It contains advice on how habits and willpower work and how to make or break habits. Some tips from the book include: Marking a piece of paper every time you have the urge to act out a bad habit (if you have more than one you could use different symbols for each ...


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That working hard makes you successful is something the rich people want you to believe - since you are earning their money. Being seriously rich has more to do with luck, being born into a rich family, and rather evil personality traits like ruthlessness, which you don't want to have if you want to be happy. The hard truth is: if you are unhappy now, you ...


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Little and Often One of the secrets of studying effectively is to do little and often. 10 minutes every day is more effective than 60 minutes one day and nothing the rest of the week. This is because you'll (1) retain more and (2) build up the habit of studying. Small Successes The other great secret is to start small. It is better to decide to study for ...


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To be honest, your story is a tradegy. But I want to tell you are doing your PhD. So, you are an extra ordinary person which ordinary people can't even think what you are really capable with. I think, all what you have to focus is, completing your PhD. No matter what others say, leave them aside and walk towards to your goal. Don't worry about your ...


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I've been struggling with depression too, for the last 10 or so years. Medication does help. So does therapy. Talk to your doctor. Other than that, my advice is to enroll on a gym (near your home/work) where you pay by the month and can go any time you like. A simple 5-minute walk on a treadmill will give you extra energy. Other one: showers, shaving ...


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Having faced the same issue here are some suggestions from my personal workflow : For day to day planning : In addition to all digital tools you can use two physical notebooks that you can take anywhere with you : TODO notebook and SPARE notebook the TODO notebook is for all the tasks that you have to complete within the day. Every morning you start ...


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I think it is both of those definitions. The idea of important is that they are important to you. (or someone else that you care about which transitively makes them important to you.) The things that aren't important are things you should minimize because they aren't providing value. Also, time management is more than just the four categories. Things can be ...


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I like Tachibana ian's answer. And greatly recommend what Mårten suggested. Break it down. You cannot chew it all at once. Actually just the magnitude will discourage you, when you see it from a high level. I'm a software engineer, your problem is something a lot of people face everyday in real life. I use excel sheets and trello.com to split bigger tasks ...


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Take charge! Get control! What I learned to do in the last stages of my engineering studies is this: As soon as I started a new course, I made a plan for it, what literature is there to read? What laborations are there? What exercises (if it's math)? Then I took this complete list of what there was to do and broke it down into manageable chunks. Now, ...


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What is the purpose of your work? What is the purpose for your being here for this time? I'm not meaning this to turn into a (Christian) sermon, but just to share how I answer this question. For me, I know God placed me in my job for a reason. As I listen to Him and develop a relationship with Him, He reveals His plan for not just my job, but for my time ...


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One solution is to be mindful of what (and how much) you eat for lunch. Sugar, fat, and highly processed foods will make your blood sugar spike and increase the sluggishness. Quoting from ‘Food Comas’, Or Why Eating Sometimes Makes You Sleepy: ... the body is a lot more sophisticated than that; it doesn’t respond to food volume alone. What you eat is just ...


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When I read your post I was struck by the fact that you're essentially asking for some sort of magic trick to make you motivated. The problem isn't that you need a secret technique for success, you're asking for the wrong thing! Consider the example you gave: You're in bed and your mind is churning from the idea trapped within it, threatening to burst ...



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