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The way you reason is very common but also quite revealing I think. The reasoning behind Steve Jobs thought is that "there are some things I would enjoy doing in life before life ends" and since life does end, he couldn't sit around waiting. If you want to reach high, the earlier you start, the better. Not everyone wants to be the CEO of apple though. It ...


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You say you "do not have any courage to finish my thesis". It sounds like you are either worried if you'll finish your report in time or if it will be good enough to pass (or perhaps both?). Don't worry about this too much. Many students have this problem, especially at this stage of a final project. If your work hasn't been good enough your supervisor would ...


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It's hard to work on a big goal all the time. You don't have anything until you reach the final goal. There is a talk by Ray Bradbury, which may be of help. What's important for you there is this: The problem with novels is that you can spend a whole year writing one and it might not turn out well because you haven’t learned to write yet. But the best ...


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When I started using a similar system I ran into the same issue with motivating myself when things were not staying on course. My solution was to change how I assessed things from a dont-break-the-chain approach to a percentage based system and adding additional life objectives. Using a spreadsheet, each day I'd track what objectives were achieved and ...


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I wouldn't say you're doing anything wrong, per se. You have an awareness that you draw energy from others instead of from within. Your personality is more extroverted than introverted. Instead of looking at it as if you're doing something "wrong" think of how you can use this awareness to place yourself in situations where you can achieve your goals. For ...


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Are you able to define which criteria the calendar doesn't satisfy? Otherwse the fact that the calendar method is motivating or not is just a subjective fact, therefore also all the other alternatives will be subjective. you are just limited by your fantasy and the answers would be very broad... whatever consists of piling or removing objects would work! ...


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I am not a natural born programmer, but it is something that I have taught myself to tolerate and even enjoy at times. Here are a few things that helped me: 1.) find out which part of programming most interests you. "Programming" is such a large topic. Do you enjoy working with databases, creating web services? Then the "back-end" might be more your cup ...


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Unless you are planning on living with your parents for the rest of your life (and they may have something to say about that), or you are already wealthy enough that you can derive a yearly income sufficient to live on without working, in a lifestyle of your choosing, then your primary motivation for working is to survive. And you will continue to need to ...


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Firstly make sure that the place where you do your work is comfortable and that you can minimize distractions. Not only can distractions prevent you from focusing in the first place but they can also cause interruptions in your flow once you've got going. To do this you can do things like turning off your phone, putting a do not disturb sign on your door, ...


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You have asked a fantastic question that I will try to answer as best as I can because I've at times felt the same as you. Sometimes it's better to look at your goal of self-fulfillment as an abstract rather than a metric. So many times, we tie our successes and failures to a specific activity or action and we forget why we did this activity or action in ...


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It is very rough preparing a thesis for any level. It may be argued that you need to feel (a controllable degree of) the 'fear' of non-completion. So... Be very clear of the physical requirements of the thesis (length guidelines, data collection requirements, etc.) Pre-structure your thesis - create the index for the so-far imaginary thesis - and go into ...


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I think it's a mistake to use a regular chain in situations where you will have no choice but to break it, it will only discourage you. Instead, adapt the chain system to something that is still simple but suits your situation. If you honestly have days when you can not study, the chain only applies for days where you can. This depends on absolute certainty ...


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I agree that don't-break-the-chain (sometimes called the Seinfeld hack) can be very powerful, but only once you have a long chain to not break. So there's a catch-22 until then. And even with a chain built up you're always in a precarious situation where one bad day can precipitate many more bad days, where you fall down a slippery slope of "one more day ...


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One of the tips my counselor told me is to "do it for 10 minutes long". and then try keeping that 10 mins undistracted. At the end, you have an option to go on, or go do something else. as long as you started that 10 minutes. Usually, people find themselves getting a hang of the task after 10 minutes, which allow themselves to dive in further. My roommate ...


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Many would consider me an incredibly productive person: I hold a regular 9-5, participate in life until 8, and work on coding/personal projects from 8-midnight. I don’t sit down at my desk to work on my personal projects every night because I feel incredibly motivated. I do it mostly out of habit. Although, having motivation can definitely help with trying ...


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Since the consecutive date/time element is kind of the point of "the chain", I think it'll be hard to avoid a calendar of some kind, unless you just keep a tally of marks or "done/not done" (or similar) in a running list. Although it's a calendar, something I've done is to use David Seah's Compact Calendar (http://davidseah.com/blog/node/compact-calendar/) - ...


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There are a few things you can do immediately. Allocate your time. One hour two hours whatever you feel is necessary. Commit to working this duration. Write down what you want to have done, how you want it to look etc. Just a brief description of what you would like the outcome to be at with the time you have available. Put this where you can see it ...


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When I have to, or want to, do things that I do not take much pleasure in-- or that I find myself losing interest in very quickly-- I give myself a timer. Tell yourself, I'm going to work on this hard problem for ten minutes, 20, an hour! You can work your way up. Or start big. If the problem is going to take many hours, or days, or months, then you need ...


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I dislike that part of your speech when you said "I feel like I'm too stupid to learn". NO YOU ARE NOT STUPID ! Please,Try be kind with yourself and avoid those Self-deprecating thoughts. You probably are not mediocre. Check this slides from a presentation about the impostor syndrome. And see this video, that's helps me a lot . Not knowing about a specific ...


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This is a brilliant question and one that nearly everyone puts up to one at one stage of life or the other. It may appear that that your work needs to have a higher purpose than what it currently serves. You mention that it's generating acceptable income for you to sustain but you lose the energy (read motivation) occasionally. The cue that you mention is ...


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I can't comment (not enough rep!) but would be happy to add an answer if I could get some clarification on what you need motivation for. I think there are a lot of books and movies that leave you with negative emotions and, from those, encourage changes in how you treat others, valuing the time you have with people, etc. It is difficult to compile a list ...


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Get counseling if possible or at least someone to talk to. Having someone to bounce of your thought IMO helps a lot with questioning unreasonable thoughts you might have. Seeing a professional counselor will also mean that you get access to medication which might help you. At times I was in a situation similar to yours (although not that severe), these are ...


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It's difficult to assess your situation solely from your post, but it sounds like you are overworked. It may be the result of the stress and extra 'work' from everything that happend last year. I'd suggest you first talk to your girlfriend and family. Explain them your problem and tell them that you'll be scheduling time for yourself for the next 2-3 ...


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It sounds like you may be suffering with depression - in which case - please get professional help. But let's assume that is not the case and you are just being strictly 'rational/logical in asking your question. In which case : I think that the assumption at the basis of this question is plain wrong: Why should everything you did disappear after you ...


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I find meditation helps with this. The more mindful you can become, the more likely you are to stay focussed on things that matter and avoid things that don't. All in all though, don't worry too much, just sounds like you have a serious case of being human.


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That working hard makes you successful is something the rich people want you to believe - since you are earning their money. Being seriously rich has more to do with luck, being born into a rich family, and rather evil personality traits like ruthlessness, which you don't want to have if you want to be happy. The hard truth is: if you are unhappy now, you ...


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I would recommend that you look at "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg if you are able. It contains advice on how habits and willpower work and how to make or break habits. Some tips from the book include: Marking a piece of paper every time you have the urge to act out a bad habit (if you have more than one you could use different symbols for each ...


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There are some good answers here. I believe that JFDI is the proper answer. I'll cover those which others have missed: Take care of yourself. Programming requires high willpower. If you're tired, hungry, or lonely, you're expending much of your willpower on those things and won't be focused. The biggest mistake many programmers make is forgoing lack of ...


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Life is a journey so analogies relating to navigation or travel are helpful. For thousands of years travelers have relied on physical markers to let them know they were headed in the right direction. Two of these are lodestars and milestones. Guiding stars Guiding stars are not ultimate destinations but they point you in the direction you want to go. . ...



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