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He needs intrinsic motivation, a reason for him to do the work required. Without that, all well meant attempts will fail. So if there's anything you want to contribute it would be to have a conversation about his motivation. The four points you come up with are not about that, so forget them. That conversation has a prerequisite: is he willing to have ...


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From your description the problem seems that your management does not take into account your mind status. Have you told them about your situation that you are feeling tired and losing motivation due to the workload you are facing and your personal issue ? I'm a manager myself and face this situation with my team members. Sometimes we have a rush and I need ...


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An important thing to remember is that planning is not something that you do once and boom, you're done. All successful men share the habit of daily planning. However, as Henry Ford said, "thinking is the hardest work; there is nothing an ordinary man would not do to avoid it". Such everyday thinking will help you design both your goals and the means to get ...


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More what you're looking for is a personal mission statement. It's an expression of what you want to do with your short time on this planet -- what traces you want to leave, who you want to help, what you want to help them with, how, and why. This is bigger than a goal. You'll accomplish goals along the way, but if you reach a point where you say, "I'm ...


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This is not specific to procrastination, but to every "New Year's resolution": if you do not back it up with actions, promises, and other structures, it remains just a good idea. It has no anchors in the reality of time and space. And as you notice, it is then easy to 'fall back'. Maybe after a week, maybe after 10 minutes. "Mwwweh, it wasn't such a good ...


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Having been (and still am) in the same situation as you, I can sympathise with your predicament. You feel mediocre because you strive for greatness, but because you aspire to be a polymath you also fail to meet your very high self-standards in all areas. Since a lot of our feelings of self-worth are derived from how we place ourselves in the company of our ...


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Do not underestimate the traditional solution. Coffee or tea. It is a proven way to wake you up. But make sure to not over do it. You can use this hours to the less creative tasks. Music can give you some energy. Have some human interaction. One on one meetings for example. You have to talk and that will keep you awake. Even better if you have to walk to the ...


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I will put in a few things I learnt from reading books. Pick which suits you. I will give some examples to help you understand the concept better. B=MAT, B=Behaviour, M=Motivation, A=Ability, T=Trigger. So you need a behavioural change here. That is to workout regularly. Motivation for you then, maybe because you have friends who would appreciate your ...


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The first step is to decide if you want to finish it. Some novels you may not like and decide to abandon them. This is fine as you won't be upset about not finishing. The key is to know you never will open it again. I highly recommend using Goodreads as your book list. This provides with a two main benefits: Provides a way of knowing which books you ...


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You are exhibiting some of the classic signs of negative thinking. You're not alone: some of the most driven, creative and talented people struggled tremendously with their inner critic. Basically, your situation is not hopeless, it isn't even bad, it is very good considering. Unfortunately, you have developed an observational bias that doesn't allow you to ...


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One thing to keep in mind: Many medical issues have depression as a side effect: thyroid or adrenal deficiencies, diabetes. You can for example google "chronic fatigue syndrome" and find lists of issues that are a possible cause. If all of them have been tested negative, the doctor will call it CFS. I would suggest the following order: Go to an endocrinolgy ...


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I think it is both of those definitions. The idea of important is that they are important to you. (or someone else that you care about which transitively makes them important to you.) The things that aren't important are things you should minimize because they aren't providing value. Also, time management is more than just the four categories. Things can be ...


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Having faced the same issue here are some suggestions from my personal workflow : For day to day planning : In addition to all digital tools you can use two physical notebooks that you can take anywhere with you : TODO notebook and SPARE notebook the TODO notebook is for all the tasks that you have to complete within the day. Every morning you start ...


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Some suggestions: Pick some examples: Who do you consider people that have "achieved something big"? Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson? Read their autobiographies and in-depth interviews. Don't pick just one, everybody has their flaws, you need to generalize over multiple people. Pick three main goals in life: Once you feel that you have the potential ...


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To be honest, your story is a tradegy. But I want to tell you are doing your PhD. So, you are an extra ordinary person which ordinary people can't even think what you are really capable with. I think, all what you have to focus is, completing your PhD. No matter what others say, leave them aside and walk towards to your goal. Don't worry about your ...


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I remember Richard Dawnkins quote and apreciate how lucky we are: “We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Arabia. ...


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I've been struggling with depression too, for the last 10 or so years. Medication does help. So does therapy. Talk to your doctor. Other than that, my advice is to enroll on a gym (near your home/work) where you pay by the month and can go any time you like. A simple 5-minute walk on a treadmill will give you extra energy. Other one: showers, shaving ...


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One solution is to be mindful of what (and how much) you eat for lunch. Sugar, fat, and highly processed foods will make your blood sugar spike and increase the sluggishness. Quoting from ‘Food Comas’, Or Why Eating Sometimes Makes You Sleepy: ... the body is a lot more sophisticated than that; it doesn’t respond to food volume alone. What you eat is just ...


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A few things come to mind. Discuss the approach together. Since this is a team question, let's try to focus on that aspect. Discuss together what the problem is, that you're lacking motivation, and how you're going to fix it together. Focus on how to get motivated. Divide and Conquer. Right now, you're not motivated, because the problem is too big. Break ...


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I always like to think about it this way: "If money was of no concern, what would I do right now?" or alternatively "If I got 10 million right now, what would I do?". The answer is what you should set your goal as, and then think of what milestones you need to reach to achieve the end result. You could go through the steps, for example: "I need a job that ...


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My wife uses the Passion planner. It comes with a twist: it's not just about 'to do', it e.g. contains sections like This month's focus, People to see, Places to go, a Not to-do list, division into work and personal projects, Good things that happened, and it has two pages of monthly reflections/end of the month checklists, with questions like e.g. What ...


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I think this is an opportunity for honest self-reflection and self-evaluation. You may want to take inventory of yourself and your life situation. What are the things you do well, what are the good things in your life, what are you grateful for, etc. Then do some writing around what you might like to change or move forward into. Then see if there are action ...


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IMO importance is applied top down. I refer to David Allen's horizons of focus. Top level, purpose is singular. Next level down you have roles and responsibilities. Most people have a four or five of these at any given time. These are normally equally important, but it depends on the person. Below these levels are goals and projects long term and short ...


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I would say it depends on what type of person you are, but you could consider trying some of the following and see if they help you at all: Divide the deadline into smaller ones. Decide when you want part of the work to be done, and make that a part-way deadline to work towards. Plan treats for yourself if you surpass the goals you have set for the day/...


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I think Eisenhower's choice of importance and urgency are a bit basic... or crude. Many people use other tags to greater effect. Let me explain... In my book, I defined the term "time demands" to represent all tasks that are internal, individual commitments to complete actions in the future. (I later found it close to be the definition of what 2 ...


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The point of the exercise is so that you don't focus on things that you have made a conscious decision are unimportant. Without the exercise, you might just focus on things you feel intrinsically motivated to work on. The distinction that you are making shows you the things you wouldn't do if you hadn't made a conscious decision to do them in spite of ...


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I recommend the Self Journal by BestSelf co. I discovered it on Kickstarter and really like the design and intention. The first hard copies will be shipping this month but I've been using the PDF version (printed) for several weeks and like it a lot. It keeps me focused on my main goals and shows me that I need to plan out my time. Take a look and see if it ...


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All the examples you provide involve money. So for you "doing something big" is about making it financially. I guess all the hippy stuff about "leaving a world better than the one you found", "making a contribution", etc, would just be a bonus for you (everybody, when reminded, adds "yeah yeah, that too", because makes you sound sensitive). That's a first ...


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You should ask yourself - what do you want to do in your life? What do you love? What matters to you? This is most important part of life. Do what you want to do. If you are happy - that's great. You want to achieve something big. Really BIG. But what does it mean? I think everybody has his own definition of something big. If you want to earn a lot of ...



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