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The way you reason is very common but also quite revealing I think. The reasoning behind Steve Jobs thought is that "there are some things I would enjoy doing in life before life ends" and since life does end, he couldn't sit around waiting. If you want to reach high, the earlier you start, the better. Not everyone wants to be the CEO of apple though. It ...


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You say you "do not have any courage to finish my thesis". It sounds like you are either worried if you'll finish your report in time or if it will be good enough to pass (or perhaps both?). Don't worry about this too much. Many students have this problem, especially at this stage of a final project. If your work hasn't been good enough your supervisor would ...


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It's hard to work on a big goal all the time. You don't have anything until you reach the final goal. There is a talk by Ray Bradbury, which may be of help. What's important for you there is this: The problem with novels is that you can spend a whole year writing one and it might not turn out well because you haven’t learned to write yet. But the best ...


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The worst case scenario is when you're not being productive nor having fun. Take a day off (you've already lost many, so it won't matter much) and relax. Avoid thinking about studying and try to actually have fun. That's your 'rest day'; you can take one a week, as a reward for studying. It's hard to focus in working/studying when the objective isn't ...


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When I started using a similar system I ran into the same issue with motivating myself when things were not staying on course. My solution was to change how I assessed things from a dont-break-the-chain approach to a percentage based system and adding additional life objectives. Using a spreadsheet, each day I'd track what objectives were achieved and ...


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I wouldn't say you're doing anything wrong, per se. You have an awareness that you draw energy from others instead of from within. Your personality is more extroverted than introverted. Instead of looking at it as if you're doing something "wrong" think of how you can use this awareness to place yourself in situations where you can achieve your goals. For ...


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I am not a natural born programmer, but it is something that I have taught myself to tolerate and even enjoy at times. Here are a few things that helped me: 1.) find out which part of programming most interests you. "Programming" is such a large topic. Do you enjoy working with databases, creating web services? Then the "back-end" might be more your cup ...


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Unless you are planning on living with your parents for the rest of your life (and they may have something to say about that), or you are already wealthy enough that you can derive a yearly income sufficient to live on without working, in a lifestyle of your choosing, then your primary motivation for working is to survive. And you will continue to need to ...


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Firstly make sure that the place where you do your work is comfortable and that you can minimize distractions. Not only can distractions prevent you from focusing in the first place but they can also cause interruptions in your flow once you've got going. To do this you can do things like turning off your phone, putting a do not disturb sign on your door, ...


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I think it's a mistake to use a regular chain in situations where you will have no choice but to break it, it will only discourage you. Instead, adapt the chain system to something that is still simple but suits your situation. If you honestly have days when you can not study, the chain only applies for days where you can. This depends on absolute certainty ...


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I agree that don't-break-the-chain (sometimes called the Seinfeld hack) can be very powerful, but only once you have a long chain to not break. So there's a catch-22 until then. And even with a chain built up you're always in a precarious situation where one bad day can precipitate many more bad days, where you fall down a slippery slope of "one more day ...


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I would recommend that you look at "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg if you are able. It contains advice on how habits and willpower work and how to make or break habits. Some tips from the book include: Marking a piece of paper every time you have the urge to act out a bad habit (if you have more than one you could use different symbols for each ...


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When I have to, or want to, do things that I do not take much pleasure in-- or that I find myself losing interest in very quickly-- I give myself a timer. Tell yourself, I'm going to work on this hard problem for ten minutes, 20, an hour! You can work your way up. Or start big. If the problem is going to take many hours, or days, or months, then you need ...


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I dislike that part of your speech when you said "I feel like I'm too stupid to learn". NO YOU ARE NOT STUPID ! Please,Try be kind with yourself and avoid those Self-deprecating thoughts. You probably are not mediocre. Check this slides from a presentation about the impostor syndrome. And see this video, that's helps me a lot . Not knowing about a specific ...


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This is a brilliant question and one that nearly everyone puts up to one at one stage of life or the other. It may appear that that your work needs to have a higher purpose than what it currently serves. You mention that it's generating acceptable income for you to sustain but you lose the energy (read motivation) occasionally. The cue that you mention is ...


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I can't comment (not enough rep!) but would be happy to add an answer if I could get some clarification on what you need motivation for. I think there are a lot of books and movies that leave you with negative emotions and, from those, encourage changes in how you treat others, valuing the time you have with people, etc. It is difficult to compile a list ...


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Get counseling if possible or at least someone to talk to. Having someone to bounce of your thought IMO helps a lot with questioning unreasonable thoughts you might have. Seeing a professional counselor will also mean that you get access to medication which might help you. At times I was in a situation similar to yours (although not that severe), these are ...


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It's difficult to assess your situation solely from your post, but it sounds like you are overworked. It may be the result of the stress and extra 'work' from everything that happend last year. I'd suggest you first talk to your girlfriend and family. Explain them your problem and tell them that you'll be scheduling time for yourself for the next 2-3 ...


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It sounds like you may be suffering with depression - in which case - please get professional help. But let's assume that is not the case and you are just being strictly 'rational/logical in asking your question. In which case : I think that the assumption at the basis of this question is plain wrong: Why should everything you did disappear after you ...


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I find meditation helps with this. The more mindful you can become, the more likely you are to stay focussed on things that matter and avoid things that don't. All in all though, don't worry too much, just sounds like you have a serious case of being human.


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That working hard makes you successful is something the rich people want you to believe - since you are earning their money. Being seriously rich has more to do with luck, being born into a rich family, and rather evil personality traits like ruthlessness, which you don't want to have if you want to be happy. The hard truth is: if you are unhappy now, you ...


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Take charge! Get control! What I learned to do in the last stages of my engineering studies is this: As soon as I started a new course, I made a plan for it, what literature is there to read? What laborations are there? What exercises (if it's math)? Then I took this complete list of what there was to do and broke it down into manageable chunks. Now, ...


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Little and Often One of the secrets of studying effectively is to do little and often. 10 minutes every day is more effective than 60 minutes one day and nothing the rest of the week. This is because you'll (1) retain more and (2) build up the habit of studying. Small Successes The other great secret is to start small. It is better to decide to study for ...


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I like Tachibana ian's answer. And greatly recommend what Mårten suggested. Break it down. You cannot chew it all at once. Actually just the magnitude will discourage you, when you see it from a high level. I'm a software engineer, your problem is something a lot of people face everyday in real life. I use excel sheets and trello.com to split bigger tasks ...


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Sounds like you feel unmotivated when you're not with people. It's perfectly natural that our main motivations are connected with the people in our lives. When you are with people you experience your motivation in a very direct, clear way. The 'problem' seems to be, what's happening to that motivation when you're alone? It might be that the things you're ...


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As I see it (and I'm no expert), there are two possibilities. Find a strong enough motivation to overcome your depressive mood. Unless you're in a catatonic state, there's a possibility you could find a strong enough incentive to actually propel you forward. It could range from "If I don't get up, those cute puppies will die" to "I swore an oath to make ...


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You're getting something for doing nothing. Right now, you have no reason to change what you're doing: nothing. You'll change: if you want to, or if you're forced to. Neither method is pain-free. You've allowed your work ethic (whatever it was before the welfare kicked in) to atrophy. Getting it back, even if you want to, will take a lot of effort. ...


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As a passionate programmer I suggest for you to look at the amazing things that you can do with programming: Computer will folow your words, you are his master. The math is language of nature, but programming is language of the machine. If you start a company you only need a computer witch is like free ;) The programming tutorials are the bigest and all ...


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When it comes to programming we're on the same page, I am somewhat a starter in programming and often times I find myself feelings stupid too, thinking how on earth did people manage to learn it. I may not be an expert yet So my advice won't be technical but an advice that will keep you going. Don't give up. As Anthony Liccione said "Don't give up because ...


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Programing can be fun. Especially if you like Math and Languages - you are likely the type of person who can enjoy programming. But it can be very frustrating at times as well. The most important in making the new activity likeable is to achieve the so called Flow state - when tasks that you perform are hard enough to be interesting, but easy enough to be ...



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