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Like many quotes, they both convey very good advice but need to be taken in context. They're short and punchy to help people remember them in times of need...but to be more useful they should come with a clarifying footnote such as: Don't fear failure, you are the only one to realise your own potential (So long as you're prepared, you have little to ...


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He needs intrinsic motivation, a reason for him to do the work required. Without that, all well meant attempts will fail. So if there's anything you want to contribute it would be to have a conversation about his motivation. The four points you come up with are not about that, so forget them. That conversation has a prerequisite: is he willing to have ...


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If things get bad, follow these steps. If you can, print them out and keep them about your person, so you can read them again and again: If you get lost or confused when reading through this list, go back to the top and start again: Hang in there. Things can and will get better. If things don't get better immediately, be patient. Take things one day at a ...


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From your description the problem seems that your management does not take into account your mind status. Have you told them about your situation that you are feeling tired and losing motivation due to the workload you are facing and your personal issue ? I'm a manager myself and face this situation with my team members. Sometimes we have a rush and I need ...


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An important thing to remember is that planning is not something that you do once and boom, you're done. All successful men share the habit of daily planning. However, as Henry Ford said, "thinking is the hardest work; there is nothing an ordinary man would not do to avoid it". Such everyday thinking will help you design both your goals and the means to get ...


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Firstly - depression is actually quite normal, in that it's quite common and affects a lot of people at some stage of their life. It's a product of your brain chemistry, not a reflection of your personal worth. This is relevant so that you understand that the way that you thinking and feeling aren't a result of your essential essence, but is a product of ...


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This is not specific to procrastination, but to every "New Year's resolution": if you do not back it up with actions, promises, and other structures, it remains just a good idea. It has no anchors in the reality of time and space. And as you notice, it is then easy to 'fall back'. Maybe after a week, maybe after 10 minutes. "Mwwweh, it wasn't such a good ...


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More what you're looking for is a personal mission statement. It's an expression of what you want to do with your short time on this planet -- what traces you want to leave, who you want to help, what you want to help them with, how, and why. This is bigger than a goal. You'll accomplish goals along the way, but if you reach a point where you say, "I'm ...


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Having been (and still am) in the same situation as you, I can sympathise with your predicament. You feel mediocre because you strive for greatness, but because you aspire to be a polymath you also fail to meet your very high self-standards in all areas. Since a lot of our feelings of self-worth are derived from how we place ourselves in the company of our ...


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I will put in a few things I learnt from reading books. Pick which suits you. I will give some examples to help you understand the concept better. B=MAT, B=Behaviour, M=Motivation, A=Ability, T=Trigger. So you need a behavioural change here. That is to workout regularly. Motivation for you then, maybe because you have friends who would appreciate your ...


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I think about suiciding almost everyday Swallow your pride and get professional help. Depending on what country you're in, your doctor can probably advize you. You cannot expect a bunch of strangers on the internet to give you meaningful advice based on the four paragraphs you wrote. You also cannot expect to solve this on your own (well, maybe you can, ...


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Do not underestimate the traditional solution. Coffee or tea. It is a proven way to wake you up. But make sure to not over do it. You can use this hours to the less creative tasks. Music can give you some energy. Have some human interaction. One on one meetings for example. You have to talk and that will keep you awake. Even better if you have to walk to ...


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Nobody needs goals. It's just that if you say "I want to achieve X" you have defined a goal. And it's no use saying "I want to achieve X" if you are not prepared to do the work required to get there. Otherwise you could as well keep your mouth shut. And X either has a date, or you'd better set a date, otherwise you cannot plan the amount of work for each ...


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One thing to keep in mind: Many medical issues have depression as a side effect: thyroid or adrenal deficiencies, diabetes. You can for example google "chronic fatigue syndrome" and find lists of issues that are a possible cause. If all of them have been tested negative, the doctor will call it CFS. I would suggest the following order: Go to an endocrinolgy ...


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Before I advice you, I will like the point out the fact that I was in a similar or maybe worse spot than you. I will probably understand what you mean by craving for attention. I even understand better when you say: you want don't want to be the uncool and unpopular guy. First and foremost: remind yourself, the only one you have to impress is yourself. ...


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You are exhibiting some of the classic signs of negative thinking. You're not alone: some of the most driven, creative and talented people struggled tremendously with their inner critic. Basically, your situation is not hopeless, it isn't even bad, it is very good considering. Unfortunately, you have developed an observational bias that doesn't allow you to ...


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I think it is both of those definitions. The idea of important is that they are important to you. (or someone else that you care about which transitively makes them important to you.) The things that aren't important are things you should minimize because they aren't providing value. Also, time management is more than just the four categories. Things can be ...


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To be honest, your story is a tradegy. But I want to tell you are doing your PhD. So, you are an extra ordinary person which ordinary people can't even think what you are really capable with. I think, all what you have to focus is, completing your PhD. No matter what others say, leave them aside and walk towards to your goal. Don't worry about your ...


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I remember Richard Dawnkins quote and apreciate how lucky we are: “We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Arabia. ...


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I've been struggling with depression too, for the last 10 or so years. Medication does help. So does therapy. Talk to your doctor. Other than that, my advice is to enroll on a gym (near your home/work) where you pay by the month and can go any time you like. A simple 5-minute walk on a treadmill will give you extra energy. Other one: showers, shaving ...


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Some suggestions: Pick some examples: Who do you consider people that have "achieved something big"? Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson? Read their autobiographies and in-depth interviews. Don't pick just one, everybody has their flaws, you need to generalize over multiple people. Pick three main goals in life: Once you feel that you have the potential ...


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Having faced the same issue here are some suggestions from my personal workflow : For day to day planning : In addition to all digital tools you can use two physical notebooks that you can take anywhere with you : TODO notebook and SPARE notebook the TODO notebook is for all the tasks that you have to complete within the day. Every morning you start ...


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When I read your post I was struck by the fact that you're essentially asking for some sort of magic trick to make you motivated. The problem isn't that you need a secret technique for success, you're asking for the wrong thing! Consider the example you gave: You're in bed and your mind is churning from the idea trapped within it, threatening to burst ...


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The truth in this is that: when you are facebooking and watching tv you don't really see the time going. The worst is when you don't have a timetable for the day. It is the worst thing because you end up doing nothing, you procrastinate and at the end of the day you tell yourself tomorrow I will do better. First rule I learnt was to make a timetable. Right ...


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30 Celebrities with pun names : this should probably answer your question. It is funny. Honestly see the bright side of it, I have been bullied for studying more than other students, laughed at because I wasn't wearing the latest and more over made fun because I have the same last name twice. It was a pain at first then I embraced it, honestly today people ...


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You have very poorly written outcomes. Why are you learning to draw? Learn french etc? If its for fun, it doesnt sound like you are having it! Ive been here, the biggest realization for me was just because i want to learn something, doesnt mean that i have to learn it right now, or even at all. Think of your time an energy as a currency to buy improvement ...


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A few things come to mind. Discuss the approach together. Since this is a team question, let's try to focus on that aspect. Discuss together what the problem is, that you're lacking motivation, and how you're going to fix it together. Focus on how to get motivated. Divide and Conquer. Right now, you're not motivated, because the problem is too big. Break ...


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One solution is to be mindful of what (and how much) you eat for lunch. Sugar, fat, and highly processed foods will make your blood sugar spike and increase the sluggishness. Quoting from ‘Food Comas’, Or Why Eating Sometimes Makes You Sleepy: ... the body is a lot more sophisticated than that; it doesn’t respond to food volume alone. What you eat is just ...


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I think this is an opportunity for honest self-reflection and self-evaluation. You may want to take inventory of yourself and your life situation. What are the things you do well, what are the good things in your life, what are you grateful for, etc. Then do some writing around what you might like to change or move forward into. Then see if there are action ...



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