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It sounds like the core of your issue is a need for frequent goals that stretch you, in order for you to feel challenged. This is relatively straightforward to deal with: rather than define a single long term goal, list the milestones that need to be completed in order to reach that end goal This lets you focus in the near future with the frequent ...


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Am I destroying my career? Yes you are... UNLESS you gain knowledge outside your current job you will become quite value-less to other companies. You have to keep yourself current. I worked as a SENIOR software developer for 11 years and when I changed positions I was clueless as to all other technologies and methodologies. I had no idea what Scrum was ...


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Try to make your promises more realistic. Saying you will NEVER waste time isn't going to happen. Instead give yourself a time budget for fun things. Like you will limit yourself to one movie a week. You will limit your internet time to X per day. Etc. You can also come up with a way to reward yourself. For example, you can watch a movie after you ...


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The short answer: Just efing do it. Force yourself if you must. The long answer: If you are a professional programmer, consult your project manager with this. Tell him that you are having trouble with your productivity and talk to him about helping you divide your work into small tasks, which you will commit on a daily basis. If you are a hobbyist / ...


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I've been a .NET developer for going on 12 years and I'm still as passionate today as I was on day one. If you're stuck witting console apps and don't have much variety in your development work this can be difficult. I think I would probably feel the same as you in this position. The thing that has kept .NET interesting for me is learning all the new ...


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Life is more than just money. And energizing yourself can be done in multiple ways. I will go through several of them so you get an idea of the methods out there. Mind you, though, that motivation is a rather personal concept. Hence I can only help you on a global level. Finding out what really motivates you, I cannot help you with. It's a personal journey ...


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What I hear you saying is that you sometimes enjoy striving for a goal and solving problems to get there, but then when you reach your destination, the feeling of accomplishment does not last. I also hear you saying that it's hard for you to stay interested or inspired long enough to make progress on many things you thought you'd like to do. You also had ...


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I suggest two things: (Generalizing on Bloodcounts answer) Use external structures that force or remind you. There are tons of those you can think of: A list of (smaller) tasks and milestones, clearly visible ( It helps to plan 'back from the future': In order to accomplish C on day Z, I need to complete B on day Y, and for that I need to complete A on ...


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That's a pretty wide and general questions, so I can give you a few general pointers that have helped me. Of course, if you can get more in to details then I'm sure I too can be more specific :) First, I'm not a psychologist, just a generalist who like to constantly challenge myself to be more productive, enjoy life and be happy. Looking at myself a few ...


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When being lazy, be as best as you can at that; lazy! Relax! However, as David Allen (author of Getting Things Done) says: you can only be really relaxed when you are sure that the things you are not thinking about, are things you don't need to be thinking about...* That sounds complex: Make sure that you have all the things that are on you mind on a place ...


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I agree with both Jeanne Boyarsky's answer and matthewp's answer but I would just like to add the following: Make your promises more precise. For example you say "I will dedicate to my study for a long time" which is rather vague. How much is a long time? It will work better if you quantify it and say for example "At college I will visit all lectures for ...


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Do something radical, change your life. Go travel the Andes for half a year. Join the peace core. Hike the PST. Enlist in the navy. The world is a vast and fascinating place, see more of it. Meet new kinds of people. Do new kinds of labor. Get out of your comfort zone. Don't sit around waiting for things to happen - stand up and make them happen. Read 'the ...


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You say you "do not have any courage to finish my thesis". It sounds like you are either worried if you'll finish your report in time or if it will be good enough to pass (or perhaps both?). Don't worry about this too much. Many students have this problem, especially at this stage of a final project. If your work hasn't been good enough your supervisor would ...


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I had similar problem long back. I used to begin a task, work on it regularly for 2-3 days and then give up. Like I began learning keyboard playing. I bought a keyboard and a book. I practiced everyday for one hour for two weeks. Then I had to go for a trip and once returned, I never touched the keyboard again. I found that this happened when you decisions ...


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Be your own judge Ask yourself this question "Good enough for whom?" Who is your unseen judge? Is this an arbitrary judgement based on whims or is it an objective measurement. Make sure that your belief systems are on solid foundation of truth. Basing your worth on someone else's whims is not being fair to yourself. Practice Makes Perfect, or Natural ...


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You have an advantage in your current position in that you have time to actually research and apply new technologies to what you are doing thanks to the pace in your environment, and you will get paid to do it. I would take as much advantage of that as possible to sharpen your skills.


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If you don't know where to start, then just start with the simplest way. Then look back at your code, and refactor it (not rewrite, but refactor). Rinse and repeat until you are happy with your result. For my own game I did this. In fact I improved the original creators code on GitHub, then I "adopted" the game and made it my own. Then I attempted rewrite ...


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Here are some steps I have decided for myself as I have been dealing with the same. Decide upon a long term goal. How do you want to serve the society? what skills would you develop? Just make a decision ASAP. This is the most important step. Make a very detailed plan to achieve that. Consider the house analogy: small bricks make a wall, walls make a room, ...


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I used to have the same problem, you generally break your promise to do something because it's either boring or not very rewarding. So, if you continue doing the thing, in the end it gets you stressed and you want to go back to your comforts again. Here are some things that helped me stay in focus. step 1- You need to find the right reason, like, why am ...


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Do not stop it, just schedule it. Choose best movies you can find and select special time for watching. For example, watch it on Friday night with fiends or family. If watching movies is a form of procrastination, you need to think about what part of your life you're trying to avoid to think about or what job you're trying not to do. Then do this job ...


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I have occasionally been in a similar situation before, and there's one thing that has gotten me out of it: I needed to work with my hands. I don't know what you do for a living, but I'm a software developer. I spend all of my work time sitting in front of a computer, and sometimes I need a break from that. What works for me is to do something more ...


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I have gone through what you've talking about and I can see myself through you. First of all you are young, so 20 means 20. Don't be overwhelmed - it's common to be desperate and make things more dramatic than they are. What I did to overcome this? I made a list of achievements. I am in my 30's and I've always wanted to do things so, I hate wasting time to ...


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For me it's always been about figuring out how to replace the things I am taking out of my life....not just taking things out. For instance, "Never waste time with stupid friends" - anytime this seems like it might happen, have a plan for what you'll do....like "call another friend", or study, or something/anything. It's hard to just stop doing something ...


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Honestly, I have never had this problem, but I have puzzled over a lot of others who do. Your question is very broad, but let me suggest a couple of avenues to pursue. First, don't underestimate the role of exposure in one's education. While academics and practical skills are important, many people have felt stuck in their life until some school course or ...


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If you, like me, dont like to waste you time with sleep, I think you should try Polyphasic sleep. Polyphasic sleep involves taking multiple short sleep periods throughout the day instead of getting all your sleep in one long chunk. A popular form of polyphasic sleep, the Uberman sleep schedule, suggests that you sleep 20-30 minutes six times per ...


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First, change your language. You are not lazy; you are unmotivated. There is a world of difference. If you define yourself as "lazy" you're assuming the problem is a character flaw, and that implies that it will be difficult to fix underlying issue. This will lead to further lack of interest in fixing things (You also invite comments like "just * do it", ...


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Your problem is "good colleagues", they're the ones that keep you at the level you are right now… if you want to do something get out of their lengthy lunches, long walks, useless chats. This will make you uncomfortable with your current state, but that’s the idea! As long as you stay with them, you'll be like them, don’t make friends in office just keep ...


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You have asked a fantastic question that I will try to answer as best as I can because I've at times felt the same as you. Sometimes it's better to look at your goal of self-fulfillment as an abstract rather than a metric. So many times, we tie our successes and failures to a specific activity or action and we forget why we did this activity or action in ...


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Are you able to define which criteria the calendar doesn't satisfy? Otherwse the fact that the calendar method is motivating or not is just a subjective fact, therefore also all the other alternatives will be subjective. you are just limited by your fantasy and the answers would be very broad... whatever consists of piling or removing objects would work! ...


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Man, I feel your pain. Something that helped me a lot was to travel abroad. It just opened my horizons and I had a whole bunch of experiences that changed the way I see things and what I want from life. So, go chill out your head if you can. Go travel a bit! (if you can't, maybe try a different sport; you might even fall in love with it) When you do that, ...



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