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The most effective way to change your beliefs is through experience: I believe that there are no black swans. I see a black swan. I see another black swan. So, I change my belief. I now believe that black swans are real. The best way to gain experience is to take action. I wanted to see a black swan. I heard that there were black swans at the bird ...


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Do you really need to do this thing? Most likely, you already know the answer; but if it helps, answer these questions: Is it worse to do it, or not to do it? Will the problem go away on it's own if you don't do it? Is there another way? Can you delegate it to someone else who won't mind doing it / who is better placed to do it effectively? Will the ...


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It sounds like you're setting yourself up to fail by dreading the phone call. Picture in your mind the best possible outcome of this phone call. Picture yourself being perfectly honest, gentle, forthright ... or whatever is needed to come to a positive outcome. Picture how you'll feel after making this phone call. Feel how light your shoulders are and ...


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You should check out Mindfulness meditation and give it a try. There are indications that it can be very beneficial for ADHD people. Google it and read more about it.


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At times when I'm avoiding doing something(s), I'll make a special to-do list titled "Things I don't want to do". Not sure why, but it makes it plain what I have to do, and a few times it's caused me to say absolutely "screw it, I'm just not doing that." That list gives me a certain unemotional clarity, even if my stomach is doing flips as I dial the number ...


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I tend to use the opposite approach to this: what is the worse scenario in such a situation? In your case: what is the worse situation that you can face during that phone call? Maybe get some bad words from that person? Maybe feel a bit stupid because of a comment? Maybe getting some extra work after it? You need to picture yourself in such situations and ...


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I'll assume you've read the other answers and determined that you really do need to force yourself to do the task. In that case Beeminder has a couple ways to solve this problem: The One Must-Do Task Each Day GTBee for iOS The latter is a to-do list app where you put a deadline and a dollar amount on each task and automatically get charged if you don't ...


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I have always looked at unpleasant things as a way to develop as a person. Of course this doesn't mean you should be trying to find unpleasant things to do but if something is absolutely necessary then the way I see it is... "The first time doing this will be hard, I will learn from it and it will be better next time!" This simple mindset has let me move ...



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