New answers tagged self-management
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A recent decent TED talk - http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html
Has a lovely illistration (scientific as well) of how acting confident (in terms of body poses) makes you confident...
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But our question really was, do our nonverbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves?
There's some ...
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A great article lists some steps on how to build confidence. Some notable points:
Believe in yourself. You have something special in you.
Focus on your positive attributes.
Don’t criticize yourself in front of others. People treat you as you treat yourself.
Everyday write down things you are proud of.
Exercising boosts your overall well-being and ...
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As has been mentioned, accept what has happened, remember that it can not be changed. Also, as has been mentioned, remember the lessons learnt from that experience and how those lessons may have improved the way you are now.
Also consider, where are you now (emotionally, career, physically etc) in relation to the time that the stupid deed was done and ...
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We only live in the present. Don't forget that.
That doesn't mean that you have to get rid of what you learned from the past (you can learn from your mistakes and try to avoid doing them again, etc) or that you shouldn't consider the future.
But still … lots of people (a lot) never remember to try to live right now, in the present and appreciating it (to ...
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For me, the acceptance is the key to overcoming such memories. Usually, banging the head occurs when you cannot accept the past. In order to get over it, you have to first accept the reality. It is like you say to yourself, yes that thing happened - I did something stupid, and it had such and such consequences. Then think what was the factual outcome (e.g. ...
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Agree with the answers above. Also, this may have an element similar to, when looking for lost objects, "it's always in the last place you look." I mean this in the sense of, of course the last idea you have is going to be the best approach, otherwise you wouldn't remember it.
As for the rest, others have said it already. Keep at it!
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According to John Medina in Brain Rules, every time we recall a memory it gets restored. In his book he quotes an experiment where group of people was asked about some of their memories when they were 15 and then again when they were 30 - most had those memories completely modified over the time. We all have a faculty of self deception the point of which is ...
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Take a break on a schedule. You need the break before you feel the effects of exhaustion. If you reach the first stage you described anyway (even after taking breaks), stop then. When you reach the stage where you are working at one half speed, you are actively harming your project and that is when more (And generally worse) mistakes are made.
It is a ...
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Everyone does stupid things. Nobody can do everything perfect. Don't think of it as a mistake, think of it as feedback. You need feedback to improve, and the best kind of feedback are mistakes.
Analyze what you could have done better, so you come out of it a wiser person than someone who never made the mistake in the first place.
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There isn't really one "answer" to your question.
I have one suggestion - I just get the sense it may apply particularly - make sure you're getting enough physical exercise. Whatever you enjoy. Preferably with other people, but solo is okay too.
I've found in life very little motivates me as much as this - it increases your level of competitiveness, and ...
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I think that this is a common phenomenon, although in some people it occurs more frequently and more strongly than in others. The acting out (throwing things, etc.) is a sort of tick that your mind uses to quickly distract you from the unpleasant thought. I find that one solution is to stop avoiding the embarrassing memory and think through it all the way. ...
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I don't think it's about your mind being active or passive, but more about knowing how to read a book. Adler's How to Read a Book could be a good start for you. And since the question asks for some practical tips, I am going to share some here as well. Granted I wouldn't call myself an active reader, but I do embrace interactive reading, which to me is a ...
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Try gamification. Take some friends and start a studying competition. If you're competitive, that might do the trick.
Personally, when up against really boring/hard stuff, I try to write a study guide/summary of it. It makes what you achieve more tangible, which is valuable. It also makes you reflect on what you understand/don't understand, which lets you ...
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