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This is where maintaining a list of current projects comes in handy. Keep a version of it in priority order, with (if applicable) deadlines noted on it. When your superior asks you to add another task, provide them a copy of the list and ask them where on the list the new task falls. In some cases, just showing them the list solves the problem, because ...


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It sounds like you are experiencing an anamygdala hijack. An anamygdala hijack is your brain's response to a physical or emotional threat. This reaction prepares your body to either fight the threat or run from the threat. When one experiences an amygdala hijack, the amygdala overtakes the cerebrum (the thinking part of the brain) and there’s little or ...


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Are you more effective with or without stress? it depends if stress is manageable (I am a software developer, I have a big and interesting task to do, I have everything I need (all infrastructure libraries are working fine, I have lots of great working examples etc) - but the time is very limited and, lets say, I have to deliver my first working ...


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Stress by itself is neither good nor bad. Eustress is good stress; distress is bad stress. If you know what you want to work toward, and are given the freedom to do so, then creating deadlines for yourself should be a help. If the only pressure is from yourself, then you can learn from the times you don't meet your deadlines. It would be bad for you to ...


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I'm no expert on this but I've been reading the book "Willpower" by Baumeister and Tierney. In this book the writers state that willpower is a limited resource. If you want to do things that rely on willpower, like changing habits, you should change only one thing at a time until it you've changed it into a new and good habit that you like. If you try to ...


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Um, yes - and almost by relex - I'm going to quote randy pauch again... from http://www.cs.virginia.edu/~robins/Randy/TMenglishTranscript.pdf When you get good at time management you realize that it's a collaborative thing. I want to make everybody more efficient, it's not a selfish thing, it's not me against you, it's: How do we all collectively ...


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I am so sorry for the emotional pain you are going through. It is difficult to get up and face the world after it has come crashing down on you. From what you said in a comment you are going through a period of grief which is hard to handle. Believe me I know, as I lost my beloved 5 years ago and of course I had to continue to work since it was now my only ...


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When you have to much work to handle, go to your direct boss and explain the situation. then you will have to either not do something else important Let him understand that you can only do so much, therefore he has to choose what you will not finish. Do you get your tasks from one boss, or from multiple? Ideally you should also explain that you ...


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In order to relax under difficult encounters you need to physically train yourself not to react in the fight or flight mode. You’ve acknowledged that you are probably experiencing an Amygdala hijack. That’s a great first step. It means you recognize the problem and are willing to do something about it. You realize that the challenge is to not to react ...


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1) try to look at them one concept a time and intentionally forgetting about all the other topics at the moment 2) give every topic a time frame say you give link list 3 hours to study. not giving them time frame will increase stress and tension. 3) In 3 hours of linklist you lists down the topics you need to study for example what is link list? how it is ...


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I need to change several habits but whenever I do something that is new to me, I get a little stressed. That happens to everyone, including me. You need to understand one thing -- change is a part of life. I am no expert either nor have I read any book on this topic however what I learnt from my experience is change should be slow. Any drastic ...


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This is where GTD falls short and why I find 7 Habits of Highly Effective People work best for me. GTD helps you be as productive as possible but you tend to lose track of what tasks really matter to your goals. The 7 habits make you think about tasks in terms of urgency and importance. You should aim to reduce urgency and focus on what is important. So ...


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Feeling lonely is something most Phd students can relate to. Doing a Phd is lonely work. You alone are responsible for your thesis and many supervisors seem to care more about their own work than about you graduating. I think there are two options here: You are depressed or burnt out. Best is to go and seek professional help. You are not depressed or burnt ...


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I believe the answer is to to take control and define the work duration. Much of the stress comes from not recognizing how long things really take to get done. We often tend to underestimate by a factor of 2 or 3, regardless of what the task or task complexity is. This has actually been true for most professions that have got more efficient over the past ...


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Just separate between learning a new concept and memorizing a new concept. Learning a new concept involves you understanding what it does and how to do it. TL,DR: Read everything and try to understand but only memorize key facts. Lets take the example linked list. First read through your material (e.g. LinkedList). Then try to answer questions like: ...


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Stress must first be defined, which is not easy. Lets take a mechanical approach to start with. Stress is a measure of the internal forces acting within a deformable body. Similarly, strain is defined to be a measure of how the object deforms (reacts) to stress. For example, an external force on a spring causes stress in the spring material and the spring ...


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Yes, I think everyone needs a little stress or they'll spend their excess mental power procrastinating (like what I'm doing now). Nature takes the path of least resistance; stress gives high resistance to doing everything you're not supposed to be doing. I remember hearing a radio interview with one of the leading advertising agencies in my country, who ...


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2 things I do in bigger projects which I possibly have to interrupt: Documentation of your work and progress, so you don't loose overview. For bigger projects I prefer Mind/Concept Mapping to keep overview and quickly get back into the interrupted work, otherwise GTD. Of course, the less likely your work will get interrupted, the less documentation you ...


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I suggest you should examine your (unconscious) beliefs. If you are afraid to admit that you are above average, there is probably something you believe about being above average or admitting to be above average. Maybe you are not aware of what it is, because ordinarily it does not come fully to your attention; it just sends out a small wave of fear when ...


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For this sort of thing I've always quite liked the principle behind Rejection Theropy, although I don't think their site is very clear about what it is. From wikipedia: Rejection Therapy is a social self-help game created by Jason Comely where being rejected by another person or group is the sole winning condition. The player can attempt any kind ...


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This sounds rather familiar - you are not alone. It's so easy to get caught up in the desire to achieve while on the run from the fear of failure. But ultimately we are not defined or find our value in what we do or have done. Although it may sound a bit Zen, I've found ideas from Mindfulness by Mark Williams a great help. You might think of it as a ...


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Only when you get full trust that your system is reliable, that you've recorded everything important and as Rory says, "What's the worst thing that will happen [if you forget]" will you then lose the stress of feeling you've forgotten something. I went through that stage. Now I find that if I don't record some task I have to get done, there is nearly 100% ...


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I know that with all the things I manage, both in and out of work, some things may get missed. To stay relaxed about this I just ask the simple question: What is the worst thing that will happen? As I work mainly in Information and IT, the worst is likely to be that a particular project may be slightly delayed or cost a little more. Not ideal, but hardly ...


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Well, since you run out of time you should focus on getting the most oout of your working time. Schedule clear, simple, achievable and short deadline (1 day for example). For this you have to work in a quiet place to avoid being disturbed. As you start getting something done, you will fill more confident and motivate. Hope it helps!


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You can control how you feel, you just haven't learned how yet. There's an illustrative story told in a podcast I listen to, summarized here: http://www.manager-tools.com/forums-8549#comment-79371. The punch line, relevant to your issue, is "He just poked you with an umbrella. You got mad all by yourself". One of the other answers references MBTI, the ...


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I deal with the same anxiety, there's just too much I want/need to do, and not enough time to do it. Though I'm far from good at doing this, these are things that may help. Realize that the stress and anxiety is coming from things you are putting into your list. That means you have the control here. You can say "No, I'm not going to do that." Learning ...


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You do need to practice. A lot. Everyone learns to speak. We took about 2 years to do it to the point of understanding. Decades to actually speak right. I went to a public speaking course. The instructor was a renowned public speaker. The gist of his advice was to practice a lot and arrange your thoughts. Nobody makes a great speech or presentation without ...


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It is not the lack of working out that causes stress, it is the broken agreement you made with yourself to work out as much as you do. In order to reduce stress you could renegotiate that agreement with yourself to include some down time. If discipline is a personal strength of yours use it to your advantage. Use discipline to abide by your agreement ...


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First of all, talk to the mentor of the internship, explain your problem and ask if you can start a few days later. This also gives you the chance to ask some questions and get a clearer picture of what their expectations are. It's perfectly ok to ask something like "is there a specific result you'd like me to achieve by the end of the internship"? If it's ...


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Are you doing reviews at the GTD 20,000 foot (20kft) level and higher? Working at these levels helps you focus on what is important, and can help you remove things from your action lists that are no longer appropriate. 20kft: Areas of Focus (home, work, physical fitness, spiritual, community service, etc) 30kft: short term (up to 1-2 years in the future) ...



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