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Sep
20
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Great comment. I agree that we might focus on the symptoms too much, while actually it's the cause that should be fixed. And questions are a good technique to study the cause. Will you add more information? Maybe more questions, other techniques, books/links on the topic?
Aug
8
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Simple and can be effective. Will try this.
Feb
20
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
One type of philosophy basically says "no pain, no gain", develop self-discipline, which basically means "get used to making yourself do what you don't want to do, to achieve something good in the end". I believe that there should be another way to go: set your goals and then find a way to achieve them by doing things you like. This requires creativity and this is an absolutely positive thing, it shouldn't be painful to find new, happy path to get where you want!
Feb
20
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
I think about this question virtually all my life. Can life be meaningful in the long term and not painful in the short term? Do we have to sacrifice anything to get something?
Feb
20
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
What I also like about this idea of "light" is that shifting your focus in this way makes you feel creative ("I need to find something better") rather than sad and guilty ("oh, I did it again").
Feb
20
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Yes, yes, yes! This is what I've thought about recently, and this seems to be The Solution. Do not fight against darkness, just bring the light. In other words, to stop doing addictive activity, find something that it's even more addictive, but seems to be a right thing to do. Humans have limited capacity of attention,so this new "good" activity will naturally replace the old "bad" one. I think that if you find yourself doing addictive and destructive (or non-productive) activity, this simply means that you have nothing more interesting and positive in life to do now. So go and find something!
Jan
24
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Physical grounds of psychological states is an interesting idea. I think that this connection is underestimated and often not taken into account enough. Could you provide any references to scientific studies on this connection?
Jan
24
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
This technique is good because it's self-contained, i.e does not rely on any external things, but on the self-consciousness only. This kind of advice seems really true and not artificial, as many others. But it's extremely hard to implement. First, you have to develop a habit to watchdog yourself permanently. Second, after you realize you're doing unimportant things you have to stop yourself. It's not easy since the activity is addictive:-) Could you share any hints to make it easier to implement your technique?
Jan
24
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Making the goal easier to commit to by posing low limits and eventually raise them is an interesting idea, thanks.
Jan
22
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Still thanks for reminding of this efficient technique and for the links. I'll check your project and the competitors.
Jan
22
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Thanks, @dreeves. CDs are a way to try, and I've tried this approach. It works perfectly, though has a number of drawbacks, wisely mentioned in this TED talk:Daniel Goldstein: The battle between your present and future self. First is that you become weak if you don't have commitment devices in some area. Without them you don't have self-discipline. Second problem is that you can justify violation of your rules. You were sick or you had a force majeure and you physically could not do that.
Jan
20
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Surfing a site for 15 min is ok, but for two hours is not good :-)
Jan
17
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Thanks for the reply. I've tried blocking too, and it worked. But the problem is, as you pointed out, with sites that can be useful if you do not spend too much time on them (this site, for example). So the big question is: how to learn a new attitude to this unwanted behaviour? How to make yourself 1) realize and 2) actually stop doing that?
Jan
17
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
I liked the book too :) And your blog post is interesting. Personally, I don't read news almost at all, except occasionally reading football news and watching matches every once in a while. The problem with those is that I'm not 100% sure I should stop tracking what's going on in football world, because I really find it interesting. Maybe I should limit time devoted to that or try some other tip.
Jan
17
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Big thanks for that. I'll try to use your tips and report if they work for me or not.
Jan
17
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
As to the second part, I hope time tracking will work. Actually I started tracking time of my entire life a week ago, using new smartphone and a good software. So far it didn't increase my productivity, but at least drew my attention to this big problem. And sometimes, yes, I'm looking at the phone and see that I've been doing unimportant things for 2 hours...should stop that now. Your advice is great, thanks.
Jan
17
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
Thanks for a good answer. I'm afraid the first suggestion will not work for me. Suppose I want to check my inbox on StackExchange (easy goal). I do it in 1 min, check comments to my posts, but then I see some interesting related questions to the right and start browsing the site for 1 hour, getting into the trap. How can your advice help in this situation? Am I missing something?
Jan
17
comment How do I make myself stop doing addictive activity?
@Martin, thanks, I see your point. If fact, I added the item about spouse deliberately to emphasize that the problem is not doing 'bad'/unimportant activity, but when tasks that are important or at least acceptable (ask a question on this site, read a particular interesting news article, write a message to a friend via social network, hug you spouse for some time) turn into addictive activity that you can't stop. Hugging can be important, but hugging too much is not better than watching TV too much. The problem is in amount of time devoted and unclear goals.